Matagal ko nang naririnig ang BINI at napapanood minsan sa mga sa ABS-CBN. Hanggang sa sumikat ang Pantropiko at konti konti ko silang nakilala lahat. Paano ba naman puro sila laman ng fyp ko.
Pero ngayong sobrang sikat na sila, di ko maiwasan maikumpara ang bawat isa sa kanila. Napapansin ko sobrang daming may bias kay Maloi, Aiah at Mikha.
Napansin ko namang konti ng followings ni Stacey sa lahat ng socmeds at parang kaunti lang ang may bias sa kanya.
Para saken napaka underrated ni Stacey (sya bias ko). Sobrang ganda ng timbre ng boses nya, ang galing nya din sumayaw at wala nang papalag kapag sinabing sya talaga ang main rapper ng grupo. Ang funny nya lalo na kapag napanood nyo mga clips nya sa tiktok. Kikay pero kanal humor.
Hate to say this pero bakit sa tingin nyo parang napagiiwanan si Staku sa ibang BINI member? May need ba syang gawin o ang management?

Sorry la ah kalau tu title bunyi dia kasar & harini kamu teda mood mau baca negative things. Feel free to skip if you'd like.
Let me begin by saying saya ni manusia biasa like each and everyone one of you so ada limit juga la mau layan life punya bullshit. I've experienced a few things the past few weeks that made me depressed honestly. I'l go down the list and explain bit by bit.

1. Kawan tidak boleh harap.

You ever had those friends that just tries to one up you? Yang budu dia ini masalah bah dia org try to one up. Like imagine you're trying to explain your problems to your friends but disitu la juga dia org bagitau "oh masalah saya lagi besar. Kamu punya tu sikit ja baitu". Like bruh...saya sini bukan mau kejar emas jadi atlet luahan olimpik ka apa, kenapa jugak ko mau compare2 masalah? Saya sini cuma mau meluah so that I can get better. Just listen for fucks sakes. This is even worst since I'm a guy in my late 20's and people just say both men and women say "tabah ja la" atau "ko kena kuat." Oh so my feelings don't matter?

1. Outside help that doesn't help

So, since I don't have a group of people that understand, I tried contacting those hotlines that offer a friend to talk to (if you know you know) because I felt depressed. I did this and just my luck I probably got the worst person to talk to. Bila saya cerita tentang masalah saya, contoh saya bagitau "saya ada masalah di tempat kerja saya. The working environment is not that great" Buli2 dia cakap "then why don't you go look for another job?" dengan nada langsung tidak ambil consideration apa2 pasal hidup saya. Macam la senang saya mau pindah dengan komitmen2 yang saya ada macam rumah kan?. Also, when i was talking on the phone with this person they had the nerve to turn on the fan and eat their snacks while talking to me. So boleh la saya dengar everything.

1. Don't you just get tired of how people fuck with your life when you're just trying to live it?

Saya tinggal di apartment and honestly i hate the environment. Kalau bukan orang karok, orang2 muda hentak2 kaki berteriak main ml. Tambah lagi jiran pegi ampai sampah di ruang legatangga. Like WTF is this? Don't people care? Tidak boleh ka jaga kebersihan tidak kisah lah environment ataupun bunyi? mesti juga kasi kotor. If you're asking, then why not complain? Here's the thing, someone did complain tapi yang bodoh dia tu security pegi share tu info siapa yang complain so guess what happened? My neighbor who complained got their car scratched. You just can't win and it makes me depressed.

1. I just hate people man...

I hate the how people ruin everything around me. Syiok2 saya duduk sana in nature, di situ la pegi datang bawak bunyi bising on their phone. It could be tiktok, ml or whatever. Saya pegi bejalan di mall, di tengah jalan la jugak mau becerita padahal masa tu ramai orang atau bejalan berderet satu baris so halang jalan orang. Saya pegi tengok wayang, di situ la jugak bawak baby atau budak yang buat bising. I go to a restaurant, tu pelayan tidak pandai pegi cek suda ambil order ke belum. It's these little things that just makes me tired...
TLDR: I'm tired of living because a lot of things accumulated and I got nobody to vent things to.
Thanks to whoever read this. Hope all of you have a nice day ✌️

Ane tau kalian kebanyakan sudah kepala 2 atau 3, dan tempat kerja itu sangat menguras tenaga sampai tidak ada waktu untuk melakukan hobi. Tapi mencoba hal baru adalah kegiatan yang sangat menarik, jadi apa hobi kalian saat ini?
Me first
Membaca light novel jepang translate bahasa inggris. Hobi ini dapat meningkatkan vocabulary inggris anda (mainly), mengetahui hal baru, atau sekedar mengikuti plot yang ada dalam LN tersebut. Minusnya hobi ini makan banyak waktu, translate jepang ke inggrisnya sedikit aneh, dan kadang cerita di dalam LN nya itu engga layak baca, padahal banyak yang rekomendasi.
edit : wah threadnya rame, ayo keluarkan semua hobi kalian disini

I learn many things setelah 1 Tahun ngampus... and i hope, my suggestion could help either anyone that was younger than me.

1. Waktu bakalan sangat cepat ketika lu senang, dan waktu bakalan kerasa sangat lambat ketika lu sedih
2. Kamu ga bisa selamatin semua orang, tapi kamu bisa tetap ulurkan tangan buat yang minta bantuan.
3. Kamu bakalan ketemu temen yang ampas, yang egois. Yang kerja kelompok malah ga kerja dan mikirin dunia-nya sendiri. Use that spite to empowering your study.. aku udah pernah cerita tentang kakekku, Konsistensi dan disiplin is one way to succeed.
4. Berteman ga usah milih milih. Makin banyak kamu punya temen, kamu makin mengerti cara pandang mereka terhadap dunia dan sekitar... dan pastinya, kamu ga bakalan kayak orang" di sosmed sana yang hanya menilai orang dari satu sudut pandang. Do not be like them... sikap itu yang bakalan numpulin kamu.
5. Hal yang ga kamu lakukan di masa lalu bakalan kamu sesali beberapa tahun kedepan. Dunia ini limitless, dan kenapa kamu ga coba dulu?
6. Main atau nonton story game Yakuza series itu ngubah hiduplu. Ga disponsori, but to be fair... ini bener bener ngubah hidup gua dan story-nya relate banget in certain way.
7. Aku ga pernah ngerokok dan minum sih, but yeah... stay away from them. Kalo mau nakal, ngebut silahkan Lebih tepatnya, riding aja dah. Mau jalan lebih kenceng? liat kondisi lalu lintas dan stay safe.. im not a hypocrite... sure... tapi tetap ikutin rambu lalu lintas dann jangan lupa safety ya... jangan lari sampai ke kecepatan yang kamu ga bisa handle. Kamu ngendarain kendaraan karena kamu mau menikmati kendaraan itu.. bukan buat show-off yang berlebihan di jalan raya.
8. DO NOT WASTE A LOT OF TIME TO HAVING FUN. BALANCE YOUR LIFE BETWEEN WORK-STUDY-FREETIME-SLEEP. Trust me, kamu bisa seimbangin ini... kamu bakalan tetep jadi mahasiswa biasa yang tetep sehat selalu tapi tetep selesaiin tugas. I see a lot of my friends failed to do this, mereka masuk kelas kadang masih telat dan ngefek ke akademis mereka.

Edit : Poin nomer 7 kayaknya terlalu bebas untuk di interpertasikan. Ngebut yang aku maksud itu tetap harus pake kalkulasi dan perhitungan. Paling minimal di tempat yang jarang ada kendaraan lewat dan jalur-nya pasti dan udah kamu kenal. I know y'all aint gonna like ngabers or anyone di luar sana yang naik motor atau kendaraan seenak jidat. Just enjoy your car or motorcycle... Selama lalu lintas tetap dipatuhi.. Intinya itu.

Hello! I'm a guy that has a selective taste when it comes to music. Primarily, yung preferred genre ko is hiphop, ppop, and jpop. Big red flag for me ang generically produced music kasi its an obvious cash cash move. Kaya when I first heard of BINI from a friend, I thought that they're going to be one of those girl groups that won't get any traction after their debut. Nonetheless, I gave my friend the benefit of a doubt, and listened to "Pantropiko" while riding LRT 2 to Monumento.
That was probably the best decision I've done in ages 🤧 Intro palang nung song, I already felt the difference between your standard girlgroup single. "Pantropiko" was beautifully crafted and the vocals are on point. Ever since, BINI has been my go to with everything I do on a daily basis. Tuwing mag-aaral sa library, tuwing bibiyahe pauwi ng Vito Cruz, hinde ako mapakali kapag hinde ko sila napapakinggan.
My entire life, I've never been part of a fandom. I never knew what it felt like sharing this appreciation of artists with others. Siguro main reasoning ko is that its a girl group, and guys shouldn't be super fans cause of the society's construct and idea of "men". However, I realized that this percieved thought is nonesense and I don't really care about what society has to say.
That's all from me. Grabe, as I'm finishing this, I felt a sigh of relief, kasi as of now, I'm still a "closeted" BINI stan, and never ko kinuwento yung feelings ko sa aking pamilya (context: they're a conservative bunch, boy should do boy things, girls must do girlish things).

Grabe! Sikat na sikat na ang BINI! Before, they were just filler lang during ABS-CBN events, and now they're the main event. Before, 50 people at a mall show is a good turn out, and now 6000+ at mall shows and 10,000+ at a local festival. Before, a hundred likes and comments on their posts was good engagement, and now they have tens of thousands of likes and comments. Before they were stuck at around 100k monthly listeners to now almost 6 million. Every age group, gender, sexuality, social class, and even pets are listening to BINI! I still can't believe the level they are at right now. The small girl group i was following last year is now this massive. I'm so proud. They truly earned the Nation's Girl Group title na. Did any of you expect BINI to have reached this level of fame when you started stanning them back then?

Grabe guys ang impact ng BINI sa araneta yesterday. From the moment na dumating ako sa araneta ng 2pm, sobrang dami kong blooms na nakita na naka BINI shirt, naka orlando cap, naka Mikha shirt, may mga banners and others. Then sa X pag may nag aannounce na may ipapamigay silang photocard or banners dinudumog talaga yung nagpapamigay at lagi nga kami nauubusan haha.
Then nung mismong game na literal na simula pa lang pag pinapakita sa sceen si Mikha grabe dagungdong sa araneta. Parang majority ng tao sa araneta talaga ay blooms HAHA (Not taking away the credit from the other teams though). Legit din talaga yung pag nakakahawak ng bola si Mikha sa araneta ay grabe sigaw hahaha. Then nung game naman ng Team Cong vs Team Donny parang napnsin ko na ang daming casuals tulad namin na sumisigaw kila Cong compared kila Donny na may mga props pa like balloons and drums. The same people na grabe din yung sigaw pag hina-hype ng host na konti na lang lalabas na ang BINI. Then finally nung lumabas yung BINI sa araneta parang lumelevel na or lumalamang na nga sa sigaw nung prime ni daniel padilla na wala na talagang naiintindihan sa sinasabi ng bini at host 😭😂. Nagsabi pa si Jho after na tapusin yung game pero since 11pm na and Monday pa kinabukasan ay umalis na din kami. Sobrang nahirapan din kami magbook since after ng BINI ay halos naubos na yung mga tao.
Yun lang, gusto ko lang sila iappreciate kasi they’ve come so far. I can confidently say na BINI is the main event. Sila yung inantay ng mga tao kahit gabing gabi na.

Hi guys, it's your virtual bisaya Tita again. Ay charot. So, as I promised last time na I will create appreciation posts for each member not for attention, but for people to get to know the members more and share interests and reasons why I love them SO MUCH.
Let's start with Gwen.
Gwen is a essential member of BINI in my opinion. The silent type, ang taong may disgust button, one of the Poganda members, and sometimes the pinakamabilis tumatawa. Why is Gwen essential sa group? (Note: This post is not a hate but the other way around) Opkors, may mga explanation din ako.

1. To have balance.
2. To show a different perspective sa fans.
3. Gwen is a type of person na her mind runs so fast that her mouth can't keep up
4. Simple person
5. Person who can do both.

"To have balance" - One major reason is kind of obvious. In their interviews and social media interactions, Gwen is not afraid to showcase who she really is (Like Colet but in a different way). Not all of your idols are talkative and willing to share their private lives. This group are divided into subgroups named OA and NONCHALANT. Gwen is the leader of the nonchalant group talaga. Pili lang talaga yong mga days na ang loud ni Gwen and promise mga ka cyst-ers and brawl-thers na sobrang saya ko talaga pag may videos akong nakikitang loud si Gwen. I already have a treasure box with links ni Gwen na tumatawa. Balancer si Gwen in a sense na as a member ng BINI, mare-realize mo talaga na "Ah, there are really famous people who loves the romance of silence. Just doing their job and the things that they love to do."
"To show a differnt perpective sa fans" - It's kind of related sa taas. But to expand, Gwen as an PPop idol always showcases an aura na "Oh, I have a boundary ha. Don't overcross it" which fans are willing to do so. Not until recently about dun sa recent teaser video niya. There are fans saying "Yun na yun?" or "Ba't wala pa?" Ay hala, di pala kayo close ha. These comments might not sound too negative but it can have negative impact sa perspective ni Gwen. Let's not make any unnecessary noises that can break the moral of our girls. They gave us inspiration and motivation through their songs and activities. So, let's do the same as RESPECTFUL fans.
"Gwen is a type of person na her mind runs so fast that her mouth can't keep up" - Beh, kadaming interviews na akong nakikita na umaagaw ng mic si Gwen sa members at sobrang excited siya sa isasagot niya or ishe-share niya. Pero most of the time, di niya talaga tinutuloy kung anong gusto niya sabihin. Hambebe, I still love you for being that person because it always brings me Joy. Natawa pa si Stacey one time kasi inagaw ni Gwen yung mic pero walang sinabi LOL. So, I always think, her mind or thoughts run so fast na biglang dadaan sa isip niya pero mawawala agad. What I don't want Gwen to think in those time is "Ay wag na lang di naman importante" Beh, gusto din namin marinig perspective mo. Lalo na ako na umakyat ka na sa list ng Bias ko beh. It might be stupid or foolish thoughts or answers, Beh gusto ko pa rin marinig side mo. Ay charot feeling close ko dito LOL. Pero bitaw beh.
"Simple person" - Gwen is a type of person (as how i look at it) who tends to love the simpler things around her. If she's not the main bias ng fans, that's fine. If she's not the most favorite sa group, that's alright. She gives this simple person energy talaga. I bet if nagbabakasyon yung isa sa kanila tapos nakalimutan siyang bilhan ng pasalubong, okay lang sa kanya (Pero perspective ko lang to ha) Basta, she gave that energy.
"Person who can do both" - Dito ako pinaka excited mag discuss, sa topic na to. Asan na pop corn niyo kasi ang taas talaga nito. LOL, joke. Beh, ang gwapong bata ni Gwen. And ang ganda rin. SHE CAN DO BOTH. SHE CAN BE BOTH WORLDS. Take a look at this video (Gwen walks like a poganda president) Sorry talaga sa words pero tangina talaga beh, di ko naman alam na 8 hours pala ang video na to. Di ko na nga namalayan na dinner na pala eh kaninang breakfast ko pa to tinitignan. On going pala to at may season 2 pa. Para siyang Poganda version ni Arcie Muñoz. Hatak na hatak talaga ako ni Hambebe kapag naka black tshirt at taka cap sa mga dance videos nila. Beh, hatakin mo lang ako ng hatakin. Magpapahatak naman ako. No problem LOL. Pero beh, bahala kayo jan. You're welcome sa video.
Guys, let me share something that I learned from one of the international actresses na sobrang na addict rin ako sa kanya. This works for me to separate my imagination to reality. I hope this works for you as well. She said in an interview "When somebody is talented or is doing something that you like and admire, you tend to think that the artist is the person - and I think it's very important to separate that" - Stefania Spampinato. Basically, what she meant by that is as FANS, we need to entirely separate our very own versions of our idols to their reality versions. If you write Gwen as ganito ganyan sa mga AUs niyo, or jowa niyo siya sa imagination niyo, let's not be super delulu na talaga na magagalit kapag di nag uupdate si Gwen sa inyo or nag rereply sa inyong messages personally. Again, that's very different in reality.
Let's be respectful fans. We, as fans also represents BINI. Alam ko we super love them, but let's not forget to not cross the lines. May boundaries din sila and we need to respect that para HEALTHY and relationship natin. Give and take ba. Let's be their walking Rainbow and Green flags.
I LOVE YOU POGANDA, GWEN!

So in my school, we have drama in our school but the thing is...I'm friends with both of them. And the thing is idfk what to do. So I want to ask y'all for help because I'm an idiot and y'all r smart. So it all started with Maria and Chess. And the person who started it is Richy. And the thing is that Maria and Chess thought that Richy told Nicholas that Chess were talking shit about her and Richy was hurt by the way they interrogated her. And it kinda reminded her of the past. She has past traumas and trust issues from the past. And Richy was rlly sad so she ended the friendship over text! Richy keeps wondering if Chess hates her for ending the friendship and she wanted to know her thoughts so she asked Bookie about it. And somewhere, she told Bookie that she felt sad with what Chess and Maria did so she ended the friendship and she felt uncomfortable with Jayjay bringing Chess to Richy's class (aka mine and Bookie's class) because she ended the friendship. But Richy didn't know Bookie was saying all these to Chess. Bookie said that Richy hated Chess because jayjay became influenced by her and that shes a bad influence on Jayjay since she changed. She founded out when Chess confronted her. And she was going to say her part but Maria came rushing and shouts at Richy. So she shouted back. She felt betrayed and she called Bookie son of the dog. But that's what she told me. Bookie told me that she called him a brain of a dog! Two people with different words. And then Richy saw a screen recording of Bookie and Jaspapa talking about Richy on how Richy was accused of lying. And then she appears to have depression. And she keeps bringing up the past u know. I'm fine with that because that past must be bad. She knows Bookie and Bini (another girl that randomly becomes part of it) was shit talk about her and she said she has proof and sources but she can't show it to me. Suspicious right? And she told me Bookie talked shit about me saying I copied him. Well it's true , Bookie confronted me. But it appears that it wasn't harsh. Bookie said "I said you copied me and she said yes and you should be original" and at least he got the guts to admit it. But anyways well let's go for the side-story which apparently is involved with this. So Richy liked Jaspapa but Jaspapa liked Bini. And they had a theory that Richy was jealous and added Bini into the drama. Bini doesn't rlly talk to Richy that much. All she does is say Hi. She mostly talks to her twin sister, Ariel. And the other side of the story is just a theory. We don't know if it's true or not but she talks to my friend , Hannah , and they were kinda like friends ig. And when she say Hannah talking to Bini and Bookie. She stopped talking to her. And the thing is that , Richy asked me and Grass (another friend. Another note : So many people r involved wtf) to stop hanging out with Bookie and Bini because she wasn't comfortable and she has boundaries or smth. Oh and also most people hated her! And also Hannah tried to like Richy but she just couldn't. And also she actually touches her friends including me aggressively and weirdly and I was actually uncomfortable with it that I actually have to kick her. And like Grass got bruises because of her. And Cady (ANOTHER FRIEND WTF) was actually uncomfortable with Richy aggressively touching her or hit her. That's all I could say for now. Who do u think is the wrong here/main villain. Oh also another question. Bookie wants to confront Richy. Should he do it or nah? Pls help us!!! Ty 🫶 (Also idk which community should I post this to....wtf)

I 20F second year college, I have this 2 friend which is my classmate din at the same time. Yung isa let's call her K, si K is both nakatira sa bacoor and same way ang sinasakyan pauwi kaya kami lagi ang magkasama. Yung isa naman is si E, si E ay nakatira sa Paranaque, ang school pala namin is nasa Las Piñas. So last March when we're at our school, napansin naming dumidistance sa amin ni K si E, and we taught na tinotopak lang sya as always (ganon sya palagi once na nabadtrip sya ididistance nya sarili nya saying at di kami kakausapin).
Hinayaan lang namin sya kasi we know na aayos din sya at kakausapin nya kami, pero nagkamali kami. So one time, nag overnight ako sa bahay nila K since kinabukasan that day is fieldtrip namin and dapat nasa school na kami by 5am. So since ako yung gusto ni K na magluto ng babaunin namin, niyaya nya ako para mag overnight sa kanila para di na hassle. Nung nasa bahay na nila ako yung gf ko gusto sumama sa overnight kaya I let her nalang, then one of our friend is heart broken that time and nagyaya uminom para lang mailabas yung nararamdaman nya and para makapag kwento, pero since maaga pa kami kinabukasan di kami sumama pero pinasama ko nalang din sya sa overnight and sasamahan namin sya uminom pero di kami iinom since may ganap nga kinabukasan. Habang nag aayos kami ng gamit, K decided to take a video of us tapos ini-story nya sa IG. After that story nakita kong may nag notif sa Fb ko na friend request ni E, nagtaka pa ako kasi friend ko naman sya sa both main at dump account ko kaya bakit sya nag request. I immediately stalk her and that's when I saw na inunfriend nya ako. K, my gf, and our broken friend decided to stalk her too, and nakita nga nilang di na nila friend sa FB si E. That time idk what to feel pero I just let her, hindi na ako high-school para maghabol ng kaibigan kaya hinayaan ko nalang.
After that unfriending session, K decided to bad mouthing E. Kahit sa Fb, bini-bring up nya and past ni E and madami pang iba. K even told me na kahit anong mangyari hinding hindi nya na kakaibiganin si E.
Fast forward, last April K told me na hindi na nya kaya, need nya na daw si E. Since E is our president and one of the top student need ni K ng tulong from E para sa case study. So basically K started hanging out with E. Sinabi din sakin ni K na E said sorry na sakanya. Also, K confronted E about her behavior tapos K let me read their convo. Don ko nalaman the reason kung bakit nya kami hindi pinapansin. Dahil pala sa post ko about pagyayaya sa beach and I only tag K, and dahil din sa pag tag ni K sakin sa isang post about ice cream. She said din na nagseselos sya samin every time na naghahang out kami ni K, and the moment daw na she saw K story na nag overnight kami kina K. She decided to cut off us. And I realize na it was immature and napaka self centered since gusto nya na we should hang out na kasama sya (si E), and at the first place niyaya namin sya palagi pero pinipili nya padin yung bf nya kasama kesa sa amin. Gets ko naman yun, even me mas gugustuhin ko makipag hang out with my gf. Ang hindi ko gets ay yung dapat kasama sya palagi pag mag hahang out kami, napunta din naman ako sa position nya kaya alam ko feeling. Last January may family problem ako and hindi ko magawang lumabas ng bahay, and nakita ko yung story nila both magkasama, almost araw-araw. Pero naging mature ako, kasi choice kong di sumama, choice kong hindi lumabas, pero gustuhin ko mang sumama bawal kahit naiinggit na talaga ako sakanilang dalawa. Okay naman friendship naming tatlo nung time na yun and walang cut off na nangyari dahil lang nainggit or nagselos ako. Pero since nangyari ulit, at si E naman ang nasa kalagayan ko, iba ang nangyari. And after na magkabati ni E and K, I distance myself to K and silently cutting her off after nila magkabati kasi I know E never wants to hang out with us, she just wants to hang out only with K, and E never apologies din naman unlike on what she did on K.
So, ABYG kasi I silently cutting off my friend?

Physically and mentally, I hope they will have some time to rest after the concert. But when it comes to promoting BINI, I think they should not rest for months and have a comeback just like other PPOPs. I think this is also the time to promote their underrated songs. I hope they perform the remaining songs in their latest album, Talaarawan, such as Ang huling cha cha, Na na nandito lang, and Diyan ka lang.
Tapos I feel good yung main performance. Damn! Naiimagine ko yung magiging performancea nila. Para rin to na makikilala sila ng ibang tao na ang taste eh like "Na na nandito lang" or yung "Diyan ka lang"

Hi everyone. I'm 24F. Currently living out of pulau Jawa. Anak pertama, dan punya adik 14M.
Backstory: Right after high school, i took a gap year mainly because my family's finance was not good at all. Mom had numerous debt after my step dad passing in 2015. So i worked ever since i was 18, dari serabutan sampe akhirnya gue bisa dpt corporate job thn 2019. Kuliah sambil kerja (awal masih dibantu nyokap untuk bayar UKT, tapi semester 3 sampai gue lulus it was all me). Dan dari kerjaan serabutan gue pertama, sampai sekarang, I have always tried to give something to my mom. Dari nominal kecil sampe lumayan gede gue selalu share as my thank you.
Singkat cerita, setelah sekian lama enduring all the passive agressive from my family (mom and brother), gue dpt offer di luar pulau untuk kerja dan gue ambil tanpa mikir panjang karena gue udah segatahan itu dirumah. Giving money is one thing, being eldest daughter is another thing. Nyokap gue dititik kalo ngobrol sama gue gajauh-jauh dari duit. I could talk about the anything with her it will end up to her lacking of money. Even gue udh jauh dari rumah, isi chat kita garing, gada tuh nanya kabar gue gmn/kerjaan gue dan ujung2nya bakal ngomongin duit. And because I know her, that's her way of asking money. She never explicitly 'asking' for money from me, rather she will be passive agressive, atau kode2 gitu loh. Gue pernah blg sm dia, kalo memang butuh, ngomong, gausah gaenakan, dan sebisa mungkin jika gue mampu gue akan bantu.
Tapi tetep aja, masih dengan kode2 itu, ditambah omongan dia yang selalu terngiang "Mama gabutuh uang dari kamu, ka. Mama cuma butuh kamu berbakti aja sama mama, cukup kok. Mama masih bisa sendiri kalo uang." Tapi gue gapernah dengerin dan gue ngerasa selama gue masih tinggal dirumah dia, gue harus bantu. Sampai akhirnya gue memutuskan untuk move out. I thought, this way it would be easier to say no, incase i do not want to give her any money (sorry gada uang/uang lg mepet abis). Ternyata engga cuy lol
Saat gue pindah, gaji gue memang naik, tapi gue jg merasa gue harus bayar rent + cost of living dll yang dimana walau bukan pulau jawa, gue juga harus nabung untuk masa depan gue. Gue tetep ngasih setiap bulannya, tapi nominal gue turunin sedikti demi sedikit. Tapi ternyata diluar allowance bulanan yang gue kasih ke dia, gue juga tetep ngasih ke adek gue. Lama-lama banyak yang dia minta, entah dari isi topup e-wallet. Belum lg adek gue minta.Januari kemarin, adek gue dengan bodohnya nabrak orang. Iya umur 14 tahun dikasih motor dan diberi izin, nabrak anak kecil. Untung korbannya cm luka ga sampe meninggal. Nyokap gue nelfon gue, laporan. Salahnya gue disini trauma takut dimintain uang, gue ada omongan bahwa maaf, gue gabisa bantu karena pengeluaran lg memang banyak dan gue baru aja kasih duit bulanan dia juga. Gue saat itu worry tp juga bener2 gabisa bantu + gue ngerasa ini jg kelalaian dia sbg ortu ngasih izin adek bawa motor. Dia sakit hati merasa dia cm pgn lapor tp gue malah bales gitu. Had a whole fight, sampai dimana dia ada omongan yang super nyakitin, kemungkinan gue tidak akan bisa memaafkan dia sampai gue mati nanti.
> She said and I quote "Kamu tidak malu sudah mengambil jatah kasih sayang papa adek kamu? Dia anak yatim kasian gada yang sayang. Kamu dulu saat kecil dapat kasih sayang dari papa dia harusnya kamu malu. Kamu baru bisa ngasih yang tidak seberapa itu jangan harap bisa membayar pengorbanan yang sudah diberikan oleh ibu kamu ini."
(Context: never met my bio father, grew up with my step dad, im grateful he was a decent kind man. Step dad died when I was 15 and my brother was 5. Knp gue harus kesannya ambil jatah? Dan gue tau, gue blm bisa kasih a whole house, tp pengorbanan dan pemberian gue 0 aja gitu dimata dia selama ini? Whew.)
Bulan ini, gue ga ngasih bulanan ke nyokap, karena sejujurnya gue sempet travel tanpa bilang ke mereka. Karena gamau dianggap gue ada uang banyak dan mereka minta lebih. Karena dimata mereka kalo gue bisa jalan2, ada uang lebih untuk mereka dong. Gue gamau ngasih kalo ga ikhlas. Tapi gue dikejar-kejar seakan gue ada hutang sm mereka. Sampe dikirim video tentang anak durhaka halus karena mereka anggep gue ada uang tapi gamau ngasih. Padahal uang gue beneran abis dan gue udh blg ke mereka tanpa konteks gue abis jalan2. But they still kode2 pasif agresif.
I've had enough, gue tau mungkin yang gue tulis disini ga cover beberapa tahun gue menjadi sandwich generation di keluarga gue. All the mental I've had to go through. And I know I sound so selfish to have a desire to cut them off completely over this matter. But truth is, ini resentment built up dari dulu yang memang baru meledak sekarang. P.S Nyokap gue gamau remarry lg krn dia males, gue udh kasih restu kalau memang dia mau nikah biar ada yang provide untuk dia selain gue. Karena gue juga cm anak, bukan the man of the family.

1. Apakah wise kalau memang gue truly go NC?
2. Karena posisi gue ga dirumah, gue cm ada foto KK dan copy KK. Is this possible untuk pecah KK
3. Are there other necessary steps if I'm going to NC with them?

All the help and comment will be appreciated. Thank you.

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Bila viral satu-satu kes viral mengenai orang susah, miskin tegar dan seumpamanya, yang menjadi mangsa kecaman netizen ialah :

1. YB kawasan tu
2. Pusat zakat
3. Ketua kampung/imam masjid kariah

Tiga golongan ni paling teruk kena maki hamun dan dipersalahkan. Macam-macam kutukan pada pusat zakat terutamanya.
Dulu aku pun sama. Bila terbaca kes miskin tegar sampai nak makan pun langsung tiada duit, beras pinjam dengan jiran, perkara pertama aku fikir,
'Pusat zakat tak bantu ke? Layak zakat kot. Tahu kutip duit zakat je umum ratus-ratus juta, asnaf tidak dibantu pun'.
Memang ada terlintas begitu. Sehinggalah aku sendiri terlibat dalam membantu orang susah dan miskin baru aku faham.
Boleh dikatakan 9 dari 10 kes yang viral dan mereka dakwa pusat zakat tak bantu tu berbohong. Bila semak nombor ic, keluar data bantuan yang diterima dari zakat.
Ada dua tiga tahun lepas viral perempuan ugut nak pergi minta derma dari gereja kerana dia mendakwa pusat zakat tak tolong mereka. Masa tu kaw-kaw pusat zakat kena kecam. Habis pakat maki hamun.
Sekali pegawai zakat tunjukkan bukti zakat yang dah dia terima lebih RM20k, terdiam terus.
Ada yang memang terima zakat setiap bulan, tapi tak mengaku. Duit perabis ke dadah dan judi, lepas tu mengemis sambil burukkan pihak zakat. Netizen yang tak tahu hujung pangkal pakat serang pusat zakat secara berjemaah.
Ada pun yang layak zakat tapi tak terima zakat ni sebabnya dua sahaja.

1. Memang mereka tak pernah mohon. Orang kata susah, dia pi cerita susah nak dapat zakat sebab tu mengemis. Padahal tak pernah mohon pun.
   
2. Ada mohon, tapi pusat zakat tercicir kes tersebut atas kecuaian pegawai. Yang mana sangat-sangat jarang la berlaku. Tapi kemungkinan tu tetap ada.
   

Sekarang ni mudah kawan. Buka laman web pusat zakat, ada pautan hubungi Team Penjejak Asnaf. Jika jumpa keluarga yang benar-benar layak zakat tapi tak dapat, laporkan kat mereka, mereka datang ke rumah dan siasat terus.
Jika memang layak, InsyaAllah akan dapat. Yang tak dapat tu biasanya memang tak layak, memang berharta tapi nak ambil kesempatan.
Seorang pegawai zakat pernah bagitahu aku,
"Saya sedih juga orang asyik salahkan kami. Kata kami tak mahu luluskan permohonan mereka.
Saya kalau boleh, semua yang mohon saya nak luluskan belaka. Tapi zakat ni hak asnaf sahaja. Perlu teliti mereka layak atau tidak, nanti mereka ambil hak orang lain"
Begitulah.

MFS

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Bila viral satu-satu kes viral mengenai orang susah, miskin tegar dan seumpamanya, yang menjadi mangsa kecaman netizen ialah :

1. YB kawasan tu
2. Pusat zakat
3. Ketua kampung/imam masjid kariah

Tiga golongan ni paling teruk kena maki hamun dan dipersalahkan. Macam-macam kutukan pada pusat zakat terutamanya.
Dulu aku pun sama. Bila terbaca kes miskin tegar sampai nak makan pun langsung tiada duit, beras pinjam dengan jiran, perkara pertama aku fikir,
'Pusat zakat tak bantu ke? Layak zakat kot. Tahu kutip duit zakat je umum ratus-ratus juta, asnaf tidak dibantu pun'.
Memang ada terlintas begitu. Sehinggalah aku sendiri terlibat dalam membantu orang susah dan miskin baru aku faham.
Boleh dikatakan 9 dari 10 kes yang viral dan mereka dakwa pusat zakat tak bantu tu berbohong. Bila semak nombor ic, keluar data bantuan yang diterima dari zakat.
Ada dua tiga tahun lepas viral perempuan ugut nak pergi minta derma dari gereja kerana dia mendakwa pusat zakat tak tolong mereka. Masa tu kaw-kaw pusat zakat kena kecam. Habis pakat maki hamun.
Sekali pegawai zakat tunjukkan bukti zakat yang dah dia terima lebih RM20k, terdiam terus.
Ada yang memang terima zakat setiap bulan, tapi tak mengaku. Duit perabis ke dadah dan judi, lepas tu mengemis sambil burukkan pihak zakat. Netizen yang tak tahu hujung pangkal pakat serang pusat zakat secara berjemaah.
Ada pun yang layak zakat tapi tak terima zakat ni sebabnya dua sahaja.

1. Memang mereka tak pernah mohon. Orang kata susah, dia pi cerita susah nak dapat zakat sebab tu mengemis. Padahal tak pernah mohon pun.
   
2. Ada mohon, tapi pusat zakat tercicir kes tersebut atas kecuaian pegawai. Yang mana sangat-sangat jarang la berlaku. Tapi kemungkinan tu tetap ada.
   

Sekarang ni mudah kawan. Buka laman web pusat zakat, ada pautan hubungi Team Penjejak Asnaf. Jika jumpa keluarga yang benar-benar layak zakat tapi tak dapat, laporkan kat mereka, mereka datang ke rumah dan siasat terus.
Jika memang layak, InsyaAllah akan dapat. Yang tak dapat tu biasanya memang tak layak, memang berharta tapi nak ambil kesempatan.
Seorang pegawai zakat pernah bagitahu aku,
"Saya sedih juga orang asyik salahkan kami. Kata kami tak mahu luluskan permohonan mereka.
Saya kalau boleh, semua yang mohon saya nak luluskan belaka. Tapi zakat ni hak asnaf sahaja. Perlu teliti mereka layak atau tidak, nanti mereka ambil hak orang lain"
Begitulah.

MFS

Hi there, Im a sort of new dm. I have ran a couple shorter campaigns and would like to run more, possibly longer ones. I want to use either roll20 or something similar, this would be my first online campaign as a dm.
Im looking to play weekly either on, monday, thursday or sunday evenings (open for discussion(multiple campaigns are also possible))
I wish to create a safe and fun environment which is open to anyone, no hate, racism or discrimination of any kind.
For the past 3/4 years i've been working on my own homebrew setting. The setting is created around spirituality and symbolism, and is inspired by asian, north african, nomadic and tribal cultures. I also like to draw my own maps so if ur interested to see them send me a dm.
I created my own homebrew class: The shaman, with 5 different subclasses, which needs playtesting so let me know if ur interested.
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After a catastrophic event during the calamity wars the continent of Endo started to drift away from the land it was part of, its inhabitants were trapped in a state of constant warfare. The agony and strife of the people corrupted the spirits of the land, transforming them into malevolent demonlike creatures. Seeking to end the fighting, the Spirit Court, comprised of four ancient spirits, devised a plan.
A barrier against the divine was created around the continent and they designated the largest rivers as natural barriers. They entrusted the guardianship of these boundaries to water, wind, and earth spirits. Only individuals deeply connected with the spirits, known as shamans, could pass through or grant passage across these barriers. This implementation successfully halted the wars.
Following the ceasing of hostilities, the Spirit Court decided that each nation should have a representative or spirit-speaker to foster harmony. These spirit speakers were to be chosen by the people and spirits of their respective lands, although the exact interpretation of this varied among the nations.
The lands of Endo are diverse, wild and filled with nature animals and spirits. The spirits walk these lands and take on animalistic forms. The spirits and spirit touched, shaman, are connected with the moods of the people who live close to or with them.
These are the countries or regions of Endo:
The land of Selen, is devoted to the ancient water spirit Emnai. Emnai selects a new spirit-speaker, a queen, upon the death of the current one. It is a cloud covered land which rarely sees days of sunlight.
Ahket and its inhabitants follow the teachings of the ancient fire spirit Ogun, who designated the strongest member of a chosen warrior family as the spirit-speaker long ago, who then became the emperor or empress. Ever since the decendants of this emperor, called Kawan have taken over the rulership of Ahket once the ruling emperor or emperess dies, keeping the rulership in the family. The land of Ahket is a land where the sun greets you on almost every morning.
Sai or the Star Tribes, believed that no single spirit should have exclusive influence. Instead, they sought a spirit-speaker who could effectively bridge the wisdom of all spirits and the people.
The regions, cities and cultures of the 10 different countries of Sai are very diverse, ranging from desert to arctic plains, a floating swamp city to one of flying books, and to a culture of strict rules, and the way of the road.
Now in the year of 1287, 4 years after the barrier which was created to keep divinity out, has been destroyed. Missionaries from different gods have openly and sometimes not so openly come to Endo. Either on their own ships or accompanying traders from beyond, who have heard of the shining oppertunity of a never before visited land. In some places small chruches have popped up, sometimes accepted, but mostly seen as a thorn in peoples eyes. However for those in Endo, and especially those in power, turbulence awaits, the shifting of powers is near and religion has roots which spread deep, deeper than you might think.
The adventure would begin in Selen, in a small farming village called Nami. The village is situated close to the Sapphire road, the main merchant road of the country.

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bini has achieved success. nice. but they're far ahead of other p-pop girl groups. it's obvious that p-pop girl groups don't lack talent, visuals, or determination.
it's time to invest in the branding of their music; bini only really hit it big when their management decided to stick firmly to a musical branding: bubblegum.
vxon (g22's bg counterpart) is starting to rise steadily and they owe it a lot to finding the right sound ("kalye" but elevated) and sticking to it. i just want the girlies to succeed, so here are some of my thoughts on how their companies can improve their music.
note: this is talking about stuff from a production pov. it's not hate towards anyone, especially the members who simply have to perform the songs.
g22 - their new songs are cute, but the "chill, easy listening, 60% falsetto" vibe is not ideal for a girl group well-known for their power vocals and for calling themselves "female alphas." i'm not saying they can never dip their toes into this kind of music. not trying to be negative here. i regularly stream "one sided love" and "i hate boys," so should you!
but for their next comebacks, i hope they'll lean into their original concept more, but also... do it better. just for reference: their debut song, "bang," has badass lyrics and a beat that goes at 130 bpm (that's fast).
the topline (main melody), however? 68 bpm. that's... wow. that's half the speed of the beat. it's the musical equivalent of someone dancing at 100% energy while their groupmate dances like they're half-asleep.
their producers need to step up. if you give them a fast beat, make sure the topline's tempo matches it. they need bigger, bolder production and for everything to be cohesive. something crazy like "supernova" by aespa (which, in addition to all the cool sounds used in the beat, has a topline that actually does match its speed) will be great for g22. if they're the female alphas, don't hold back (musically)!
kaia - these are the girls who actually need to do newjeans-esque stuff. "dalawa" is proof of it. kaia members are pretty good vocally. however, they have naturally softethinner voices (from their main vocalist to their sub vocalists) and they really suit that "easy listening" genre.
yara - they should make r&b their thing. you might say "bakit papa?" was a fluke bc it was produced by thyro and he's just really great at that stuff no matter who the artist is.
case in point: "gayuma." it's abra's song, but with respect to mr. abra, thyro's r&b chorus (even though he's just a featured artist) is really what ppl remember about it (aside from the shitty transphobic mv too).
but the difference for me is that i think the yara members' delivery was really memorable on "bakit papa?" with all the ad-libs and melismas. unlike abra, who could've honestly been swapped out for anyone else on his own song, the yara girls made that track theirs. it shows they really suit r&b-flavored pop.
yun lang

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