Lately I've been reminiscing about gaming in the early 2000s all the way into around 2010 when a ton of games coming out were basically one-upping each other at what kind of new idea they could implement next; games which still inspire devs today.
Games from Lionhead (The Movies, Black & White, Fable), games like Spore, Sacrifice, Hostile Waters (you're a legend if you remember this one), Dead Rising, God of War, Red Faction, Indigo Prophecy/Fahrenheit, Deus Ex, Max Payne. I could go on, you get the idea. Even in the past decade or so we've gotten a few new game types - extraction shooters, asymmetrical PvP (Evolve, DBD), games that play against you the same way you play against them (Echo), games that "meta" themselves (Inscryption), or ideas such as the Nemesis system from Shadow of Mordor.
Basically, looking for more recent games that try to do their own thing more than doing "oh it's an X-like" or "oh it's X but better". Something refreshing, something that makes you stop and think trying to learn it.

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WARNING: Very long narrative of my life and past experiences:

TL;DR:
I just wanted to try and make sense of life recently. A little backstory. My mom (54 at the time) moved in with my partner, myself and our two girls (3 and 1) in August 2023 after her rental property had been sold and she was forced to relocate by September 1, 2023. She had nowhere to go and was not allowed to live with my brother and his wife in the mother-in-law quarters, due to everything that has happened financially with her, so she had to live with me.
Now, she had a year's notice of needing to move, and being allowed to terminate the lease at any time without penalty should she have the desire or ability to vacate sooner. She had to be out by 9/1/2023. So, leading up to this, it's the house I moved into with her as well as my brother then we first relocated to South Florida from Indiana in 2017. That was the house that we called home in Florida. It's the only place my mom knew as her home.
I met my partner in March of 2019 and we found out three months into dating that he had to move back to his home town 4 hours north of where we were. He had a new job and was going back to be near his family. I understood, seeing as we hadn't met yet when he made these plans and seeing as I moved long distance (1200 miles) away from all of my family, my friends, my hometown, everything I ever knew and grew up around. That is what Tampa was to him. I began traveling to visit him because at the time I was a full time college student and was able to. He paid my way and I either took the train or drove my car. More back story: My mom floated around a couple jobs trying to find one that wasn't terrible and also was flexible with my health needs and needing to miss school/go to the D have tests/procedures done. My brother and I eventually switched to virtual learning. I completed sophomore to senior year and he did 8th-12th virtual. It was much easier with the entire situation. Not including the craziness of my dad, who was an alcoholic and violent/abusive, mostly verbal to us but everything to my mom. My parents separated in 2007 and were divorced in 2008. My mom was a stay at home our entire life up until they were separated. My dad didn't want us in daycare or with nannies and didn't want us riding the bus once we were older. Even though we were in a very safe neighborhood, and it was actually a very great school system.
Anyway, my mom had to start her life over and floated between jobs, eventually landing as a secretary/assistant in a realtor's office. My mom eventually was tasked with doing house cleanings for their rental properties. Now, even being 2010, the pay was way worse than it should have been. Honestly, my mom had no idea what it would be like doing house cleaning, specifically move out rental property cleanings, which are the worst of the worst. I'm talking bed bugs, maggots, mice, mold, feces, you name it, we saw it. So after doing a couple and realizing it made more than the hourly wage she was making as the receptionist , she decided to do both full time. Now, my brother and I, who at the time were very young, like 11 and 13, started helping My mom at cleanings to make it faster plus she didn't want us alone all the time. We were doing virtual school so it wasn't an issue. There were a couple times before I was in online school where I took off and went and helped her work because I just hated school and my teachers etc because of everything going on with my body. I didn't enjoy it but didn't hate it. It was nice on days where we were able to finish earlier and it wasn't totally disgusting. Plus we were able to spend time together at times. We also got paid typically same day or next day via check so it was great to secure the money. My mom continued this until the office laid her off then she branched off on her own and started a cleaning service in later 2010/2011. My mom became used to us helping her and decided we needed to do this and help her so that she finished faster and would get paid. She also said she couldn't by food if we didn't work because we were living paycheck to paycheck and that she couldn't do it by herself. She told us that she never wanted us to have to get jobs in middle school or high school because she wanted us to focus on our school. Yet we ended up working for her all the time, being paid $0 cash in hand for doing it and instead getting rewarded with fast food, groceries and the bills paid. We did take a family vacation in 2011 that was nice. We also faced a couple hardships around this time. My grandpa (her father) died in 2010 after fighting months of terrible living after having a stroke in 2009. He bounced in and out of the hospital vs a nursing home. Then we lost our dog in 2011, which we had only just gotten back from my dad for 2 years or so, she was 12 when she suddenly became, I'll and passed naturally at the vet.
Anyway, even though now, in hindsight, we would have been better off if my mom could have managed to clean alone or have hired someone, then one or both my brother and I could have gotten jobs somewhere to have cash ourselves but also help with the bills if needed. I did later on, like at age 15, nanny for my neighbor for a couple years as well as working for her tanning salon for a couple months.
Now continue onto 2014, earlier in the year, we had a foreclosure scare where police showed up to escort us off and gave us an hour to gather our belongings and the rest would be for later or locked up with the red ball movers. I was called panicked by my mother that I needed to get there or I would lose my stuff. I guess she didn't know what I wanted or needed. I'm not sure. I was at the tanning salon, which was located at the back of my neighborhood. It just so happened that right before she called, the owner's stepson had showed up to tan. I had to rush out and tell him while he was in the tanning booth that it was an emergency and leave the shop. We ended up talking to my dad and he spoke to whoever and they said it was a misunderstanding and left. We ended up being given a timeline of end of July to be out. This is the home I lived in from 6 to almost 19. It was my childhood home. Both my parents were on the mortgage. We had been forced to move out when my parents divorced so that my dad and his gf could move in. Supposedly to renovate and sell it. Instead, he called us one day approximately 2 years later and said we needed to move in or he would let it go to foreclosure since he couldn't or didn't want to sell it. He did not renovate it at all. Of course, me being a child still, was super happy to have my home back. Now, I'm not sure how my mom felt but with the divorce and the messed up child support issues and unfair court hearing and everything else that happened between them. I had to always get in the middle between them, because he would get in a cursing match with my mother so she didn't want to speak to him. So I had to message anytime bills were due and we needed money, to get money for fast food, groceries, for shipping or small travel trips in town to a hotel etc,. I was always in the middle. Now originally, my dad said he didn't want me involved and I shouldn't be etc, but later on he would only talk to me or my brother as well, mainly myself seeing as I was the oldest. I also had to start taking care of bills for him as well.
So, continue onward, my dad paid the rent/mortgage my whole life, aside from when he put our house payment on hold for his deployment with the navy and then later on the payments had to be made and he couldn't. I think they wanted a lot of money up front, but he didn't have it and it kept accruing so we eventually were foreclosed on. Now, both my parents had poor credit, and my mom didn't make much money or have really any way to prove her income since it was cash and personal checks, not direct deposit. My dad made over $100k a year but was terrible with money and alcoholism and also didn't want to pay bills, only the fun things. He would only pay bills when they were two and three months late and would threaten cancelling or eviction. He paid for our rent at the new place until we moved to Florida in 2017. He also in between that, bought us a couple cars, used, a lot of miles, but ran and were mostly reliable. He had taken some money out of his retirement for up front purchase or later just did payments with buy here pay here. He paid the rent and car but again, it was always late and with fees and threatening to evict. It was always very stressful not knowing what would happen as well as having our phones randomly shut off.
We wanted to move to Florida for college. We could have gone to a state school in Indiana but I was always cold due to anemia and sick all the time from weather changes, so Florida was promising. My dad was very against it and fought us tooth and nail. Eventually after many fights, he agreed. He paid the first, last and security for us to move and cosigned the lease to help us get approved. The rent was late every month the entire time we all or eventually, just for my mom to live there until she moved out in 2023. On the positive, my brother met and is now married to his wife and I met and am now with my partner (we both met our S.O in 2019 and have been with them ever since). I have two beautiful girls that I am so happy and lucky to have. My partner and I rescued a dog together in 2020 right before our oldest was born, but sadly in 2022 he passed away very suddenly from lymphoma that showed up 2 days before he had to be put down. We were visiting my mom with him in South Florida when it happened.
Now let's get back to the beginning. My mom has lived with myself, my partner, and our two kids since August 2023. She moved in with us because my brother and his wife would not allow her to move in with them. In the very beginning I assumed it was because his wife was kind of territorial and private and also would have her parents come visit from Brazil time and time again and stay for months at a time. So I figured she didn't want my mom there as well. Later on it came to light in my own head that the reason was for the same reason that we were now stuck. That she was not making enough money doing cleanings. Even with her charging more than what she was previously charging in South Florida and even though she made even more than she made when she first started in 2010, she was still not surviving. She has not survived the entire time. She's done this. She's never been able to afford all of her bills and when my brother and I were in school starting in 2015, we would use our school money that we got from the VA with the GI Bill, which was monthly, as well as the money that we got with our school refunds for taking out loans to the max amount and then using the refund amount after we paid for books and supplies and if we wanted something extra, we would pay for bills like car insurance, 6 months at a time for my mom and helping with other household bills. We had two cars at the time. The one car we went and purchased after selling my little car that we use to move to Florida in and my mom had sold her cheap SUV in Indiana before we moved. We took that 1100 hours from my little car and put it towards a different car that cost $6,900. That was a Nissan Altima with a lot lower mileage and ran really well. I used my school money, and my brother used his school money, and we used the $1100 from the car and we paid off the car in full and that was going to be my car, but I was going to let my mom and brother use it until we were able to figure something out and get another car. Well, a little after that my dad decided to get me a car so we decided to gift that car to my mom. So I rarely drove that car maybe three times. My brother drove it more than me but he used to drive to and from school and he used it also for going to work later on at Jiu-Jitsu which is also where he like to train several times a week. Now. Continue this on living in South Florida, we still worked all the time. Sometimes every single day with my mom. Up until we both started having lives as our significant others. We still never got paid. Very rarely. Maybe two or three times. Did we actually get cash, the rest of it was just paying for our living etc.
So now with my mom living with me, we only live in a two-bedroom townhouse. So she had to take our daughter's room. So now our two girls live in our bedroom, and she has the other bedroom. Our girls have limited play space because it is not a large townhouse. It's only about 1,200 square feet. But it's a split level because it's two stories so it's even less space. We have an outside patio but at the time that was being filled to the brim with her boxes, which now after almost an entire year she's gotten rid of most of her belongings to the trash or donations and only has very few left. Originally we had all planned on her being out within 3 months but that didn't happen because she didn't get a job anywhere except just continuing doing cleanings. Which even working 5 days a week. Unless she worked 8 or 9 hours she does not make enough money to survive, let alone save up money, pay off debt to build credit, and be able to get the chance to actually purchase a house or obtain a rental property. Property. So she's been living with us and still is and everyday has gotten worse and worse because she just stays in that tiny box of a room for all of her meals and spends all of her time in there. Unless she's gone working. A lot of times she will take one or both of my daughters and play with them in that room on the Xbox or whatever. Watching TV or a movie but very rarely do they go outside because we don't have a fence and my mom doesn't want to deal with it. My mom spends all time in that room because of the fact that she has two dogs that also are here that live with her and stay in that room because I have bad dog allergies to most dog breeds so she doesn't want to have the dogs downstairs infecting my area. So she only has them down here as little as possible which is usually when she goes to and from letting them outside or when she's making something to eat. It's made it worse for her because she's turning into a hermit crab situation. She never leaves. She goes to work and comes back and goes in that room and stays. She doesn't have any money to go anywhere or do anything. She doesn't have any health insurance. Doesn't have any way to do anything. Doesn't have any chance to pay off debt, instead. It's just accruing more. She cannot pay to take the kids anywhere like ice cream or to food or whatever, so you could take him to a park but a lot of times it's hot and she just doesn't want to mess with it. My mom has had off and on like bad health issues. Just you know nothing debilitating but just issues with her body like arthritis and other things that have been caused because of her 14 years of doing cleanings with heavy chemicals and not wearing masks or gloves. It takes a toll on your body and it's very hard to deal with. But I just don't know where to turn to which is why I'm here. And I'm sure this sounds like a big rambling fit, but it's very hard for me to try to piece all this together to actually make it make sense. I have constant guilt feeling like I am not taking care of my mom. I'm currently a stay-at-home mom to a one and 3-year-old and feel like I should go and get a full-time night job after my husband gets home from work during the day so that I can help support my mom and help her get a house. My mom has no credit to do so and has had no credit for 15 plus years.
There is tons of debt on her credit that needs to be paid off but she feels it's a lost cause. I have taken the time to build up my credit and also had her on my credit card and then authorized user for 3 years which is helping her solely keep her credit come getting lower. I feel like I can't even trust her to watch the kids all day because she said if it's a full-time job then she can't even afford to live because she's not working herself unless I pay her. Which I can't do that unless I get a really high paying job. But she doesn't even make a lot of money right now. In the past months since she's been back she's only worked 2 days for a total of like 8 hours. She does not want to work in person. She had bad experiences in the past which I know was only about 3 or 4 years of her life because the rest of it was stay-at-home mom from like when I was a baby until obviously now. So she only worked 5 years before I was born and then she worked 3 years later on when we were in. You know middle school high school age. She hasn't had a ton of time and you know that 3-year span of when we were older to even hate jobs enough, but something happened between that and everything she went through with my dad to where she doesn't want to work in person. She doesn't like how she looks right now. She's never liked getting her haircut in person even when she had the money too years and years ago when I was a child. Even when my parents were still married. She doesn't like it. She doesn't like looking in the mirror. She doesn't like making small talk. It just makes her nervous. I have a feeling that there is some sort of childhood trauma and or mental health issues that are going on that are causing all these anxiety and panic attack issues to where she can't work. She tells me that she works in person that it's going to suck and her life's going to be terrible. She makes comments about being suicidal and she says that she would be nauseous everyday going to work. She tries to ration and say that if she went to work somewhere even only a 20-minute drive away that if she's doing that everyday it's going to damage her car and put more wear and tear on it that she can't afford to fix. But right now she'll drive sometimes 40 minutes away to do a cleaning, she even drives to South Florida which is a 5-hour drive, today's with my brother at his house and then we'll work 2 days while she's there and only bring in like $150 and then drive back. Which the gas is not barely covered by that as well as her food while she's there and everything else she does while she's in South Florida. So she's putting all that wear and tear but the money she's making is not even making up for it. Now. I know she likes visiting my brother too and it also gets her out of my smaller house seeing as he has a fence in yard for her dogs and he has a mother-in-law quarters which is where she stays. But I feel like I don't know where to turn. If I tell her to get a job. She says she's already suicidal and that it makes her more suicidal if I mention it and that I'm basically driving her off a cliff. She makes comments like this all the time. She's always in a bad headspace. She makes comments in front of my children like this. Then she needs suicide or other comments and I do not like that because they're very little and even though they don't know what that means, I don't want them mentioning it to someone else. Sometimes she gets an attitude and says she doesn't want to watch my kids even though it'll be only once a week for a date night and I don't expect her to do it all the time. Sometimes it's not even every week. One time I had her babysit for 3 hours so I could go work somewhere doing a quick child care job and she got upset when she found out it wasn't a doctor's appointment but I told her up front that it was for working but she just was upset by it because in her eyes I shouldn't be going to work and making her watch my kids. Even though she is completely 100% against daycare of any kind and said that it's very dangerous and that so many kids get hurt or die and that I cannot put myself or my kids in that danger to go and work somewhere else. Now My partner and I could use the money. It would help us be able to move out of this house quicker rather than waiting another year to year and a half. It would help us be able to have more money to afford things to do with our children but also buying them things they need without feeling like we're pinching money. My dad currently sends me about $150 a week every week and has done that since my mom moved in last August. He's doing that to help out in case she accrues any cost that we have to cover. Like if I buy dog food for her dogs or if I buy her food. Even though my parents despise each other. My dad still wants to keep her fed and make sure she's taken care of and still calls her a good mother instead of when they get in fights. He could say something nasty to me but doesn't. My dad is definitely not a good person, but I'm starting to think that my mom has a lot of demons too. Now just tell me where to turn because I don't know what to do because I feel guilt over everything involving my mom. I feel like I can't say anything to her without it causing a fight and she screams at me. She slams doors like a child. She will go and sit in her car even in 100° heat either with it on or off sometimes for 2 hours and not even have a drink out there with her just because she doesn't want to come inside. She will tell me that I'm the one causing all the fights. My partner has seen her start fights with me and scream at me, my brother has noticed it. She will say thanks to my brother but then she will say thanks to me that are completely different or completely exaggerated. She will tell me. Oh yeah, she can watch the kids whenever I want, but then she'll tell my brother that it's terrible and that she feels like she's doing it all the time and has no relief from it. She very rarely helps around the house except cleaning dishes or vacuuming sometimes or picking up toys. The room she stays in a lot of times has trash overflowing in her small trash can because of all the meals she eats up there and all the drinks she brings up there. At times. She'll argue and say that the kids spill her drink but they spill her drink because they have access to it because she'll leave it down low or they can reach it. We don't even like to have food and drink upstairs in our house but because that's the only place she'll ever eat, we allowed her to do it. But then it's hard because our kids will ask to eat upstairs and we'll tell them no that we're not supposed to have food upstairs. But then they don't understand because they see Grandma do it everyday. So it's a very tough situation. Now. She's gotten to the point where if my brother and I talk and we talk about stuff she said and we can front her on it. She gets very upset because she doesn't like that. We are talking about her and says that we're talking behind her back about her instead of telling it to her face. She called my brother out on something one day that she had said and he proved to her that it was wrong and that she was saying something. Even though she tried to tell me one thing and tell him another. She always tries to depend it on someone else and say oh well. This person said that and then that person said this. I don't think she's doing any of it to be malicious but I think it's like almost she hears that in her mind so then that's what she says. Something happened recently with my dad and she went after she found out about it and told my aunt about it. Who is my mom's sister. None of these people care about my dad. None of them like my dad. Obviously I get it. He's done so many things, but it's the fact that my mom would go and talk about this drama just because she's interested in it or it thinks her you know whatever. Maybe she thinks it's funny. But it's just frustrating and I called her out on it and said it wasn't any of her business to share and she got upset and said oh well. Maybe it's a secret I guess whatever. Everything always ends in a sarcastic remark a lot of times. Recently she said something to my daughter and I didn't like it and I asked her not to say it which I've told other relatives in the past to not say things either. But she's the only one that has said it so badly. That would be sarcastic and then later on wouldn't even play with my daughter without being sarcastic again and saying oh we're going to get in trouble for that even though it was nothing that was actually bad. She was just saying that because she was mad of what I said earlier.
We are at the point where we're going to start charging her rent because lo and behold we have not charged her a single dime since she's been here. Even with us. Also providing occasional dog food, snacks, food for the house, etc. For her if she needed it. There was times that we floated her bills when she was in South Florida, my partner would because I didn't have a job at the time and I wasn't getting school money anymore. After I graduated. . And then I would text my dad even though he's not even really in the picture except when he was paying rent doesn't even owe us child support anymore really. He would still give grocery money for her so she'd have groceries. So here I am now at the ripe old age of almost 29, not knowing what to do, and feeling very guilty. If I want to go purchase buy one get one free perfume without giving one of them to her. Or feeling guilty if I hang out with my sister-in-law who's my age because I don't have anyone else that's close to my age. And I don't have any friends over here yet because I only had friends from college in South Florida and all of my other friends were in Indiana. I feel guilty because my mom's left out. I feel guilty if I go somewhere like if we had the opportunity to go to Indiana or if we had the opportunity to go to Disney world or Disney springs over in Orlando, my mother-in-law lives near there, I will feel guilty that my mom can't go. Even though she probably wouldn't even want to go and even though it's not even involving her, I would still feel guilty. If I go and get a gym membership with my partner, I'm going to feel very guilty about my mom not going, especially if I ever ask her to babysit for us. Because I feel like she wants to go to the gym too. But she doesn't have the income to go because she's not working well. She's not making enough money from what she was doing working. She can work and at one time was working almost every single day but just wasn't making enough to survive which is what my brother and I have tried to explain to her. So now since we've pretty much almost forced her to go and get a real job or at least start looking for one that's not just remote, she's very upset with us and doesn't want to speak to us anymore. She feels like she has nowhere to turn but that she has to still live with me because he won't let her live there because he knows that she would just live there for free.
My brother is in a way better position than me because he doesn't have children right now, his wife has a lot of money and is working, and he is making over 100K a year right now as a programmer and can support her. He is promised to help her within the next 6 months to a year get a house but said that she needs to be working somewhere. That's not cleaning because he wants her to prove that she can actually afford to pay the rent or the mortgage. He doesn't mind helping cosine and he even doesn't mind helping her pay first, last and security. But he does not want to be footing the bill every month for her bills. He was paying all of her bills or most of them every month in South Florida because my dad was supposed to but would come up with excuses not to and my mom didn't have more than $100 or $200 a month to contribute to the rent. So then my brother would have to pay the rest because I wasn't working. Now when we both were getting school money we were able to take care of everything. We took care of all the car insurance for like 2 years for my mom. She didn't pay one dime. You'd also pay for other incidentals too like random TV expenses or going to a hotel or paying for fast food etc. Now. My partner and I would really love for us to be able to get that bedroom back so that our children can actually sleep in their own room and we can actually do things in our room like stay awake and talk without waking up our kids or watch a movie together or whatever we want and not have to feel like we have to go downstairs, especially if we're tired. But right now we can't do that. But if I feel like I need to tell her she has to leave she doesn't have a job and hasn't saved any money even though she's been here almost a year which originally her intent was she was supposed to be saving money and working so that she could move. But that hasn't happened and I don't know when it will happen. It feels like everything is just repeated and repeating. It's been repeating since 2010 and I don't know how to make it any better. I always feel like it's my fault somehow and that I need to fix it that I've always had to be the fixer and that I'm parenting my parent. It sucks because I hate feeling that way, I hate the way the guilt has made me feel. I hate the way that my mom and I have a relationship now. That's worse when she's here but better when she leaves. We're actually able to tolerate each other and talk to each other because it's not about bills or her living with us or the fact that she needs to get a job. We just talk about things that we normally talk about. But when she's here we just go to world war 3 sometimes and it's terrible. It's not a good look for us. It's not good for my kids to be around, my oldest is getting scared of the fights and gets upset and tries to talk everybody down. That should not be put on her at this age. I went through that when I was a kid, and it should not be on her.
Obviously, I have issues too but my mom does not want to go to therapy even though the only therapy she ever had was court ordered and I told her this would be completely different. I also told her that everyone should have therapy because it's better than trying to just rant to your family. I know that she has a lot of stress and built-up anger and resentment for everything that's going on and feels like she doesn't know where to turn. I know that my mom feels like that she has failed even though she works really hard. She's failing by not being able to survive but she just doesn't want to admit it. I just don't honestly know what to do or where to go. And if you talk to my brother he says oh well if she doesn't want to pay rent and she just moves out and lives in her car. That's on her. But she's not in her right mind. What normal person wants to live in their car. Why would a normal person want to threaten putting their 13-year-old dog that they've had that entire time into a shelter rather than give it to their son or daughter. It doesn't make any sense, but I just honestly don't know where to turn to. I do not want to feel like I'm forcing my mom to leave, and I know if I ask her to pay rent, she's going to say she doesn't have the money to pay rent because truthfully, she can't even barely pay her $130 car insurance. Something happened with the phone plan with my dad and now we're going to have to get off of it. She doesn't have the money for that. We have to pay off the phones that we had on a monthly payment with my dad. He's been paying it my entire life with us not contributing one dime. And that includes my mom. She's still on his plan and so are my brother and I. But something happened. So my brother and I are going to pay off our phones and transfer to T-Mobile. We don't want my mom on our plan even if that line is free because we don't want the risk of her having to owe money and not have it and us have to foot the bill every month. And it sucks that we have to even act like that but that's just how it is. If we talk about the phone situation and try to help her. She gets very upset and doesn't want to talk about it and says that we're trying to tell her what to do and control her..
This is how all of our conversations go basically. We try to say one thing and she'll misconstrue it as another. Such as when she was seeing this guy for a year and a half and then she stopped talking to him and then she started talking to him again and I told her that I wanted her to be happy and that if she wanted to make it work with him and if that meant she had to be in South Florida then she could. Because flashback to win I first had my child she would come and visit off and on and stay here and I'd go stay there and I always told her she should move to the side of the state because it's cheaper and there's More work opportunities and she'd be able to be near her grandchildren. Now. She wouldn't have moved here if she wasn't forced to but she moved here because of the bad situation she got put in. But she tells everyone that I forced her to move here and that it's my fault. Even though she literally was end of lease and they were not resigning and had nowhere to go. She had no credit. No job, no money saved. Basically, nothing to her name except $100. We had to foot the bill for the moving truck so that she could move to bring all of her stuff here and we hadn't split the bill to open up a storage unit. But then he ended up having tons of issues and not being able to move and not getting a job. So eventually the storage unit had to get paid month after month by my partner and I. And then we had to sell all of our stuff and take the rest of our house which eventually, led to it being trashed/ donated except for what she decided to keep. I know her life is tough in that small room and that she doesn't even have a closet because I use it for my kids. And she can't have a dresser because we already have a dresser in there for my kids. But my daughter starts school in August and she's never been in school before and we really wanted them to have their own room back by then but it's just not happening, and it makes me and my partner sad. But then I feel worse if I try to say that my mom needs to leave because I feel like I'm forcing her to go and get a job where she doesn't want to and that it's my fault and the situation is my fault and that it's my fault. I don't have a bigger house that she could have lived in with us for longer and she always said in the past that she wanted us to all live in the same house together and just have it be bigger. And I don't know if that's because we could all be close together or if it's because she wanted us to support her. I don't know. I really don't know where to turn to. I don't know what to do. I don't know what's right. I don't know what's wrong. From what I know financially after trying to fix myself and seeing my partner who's very financially responsible. I know that she should get a job and that would help her get her retirement built up. That would help her be able to get in medical insurance, dental insurance, vision be able to do frivolous things like shopping or getting her hair done or whatever she wants to do nails whatever. Be able to go and visit friends. She doesn't even go into situations right now where she can meet friends. And a lot of times she goes on a date with a guy that she knows is probably not going to be someone she's attracted to but I feel like she does it because she wants a man to support her so she can move in with them. She always said that her and her ex-boyfriend didn't work out because he didn't want to move in with her and be stuck paying half or all of the bills for her. And that he wanted to just live in his RV in her driveway or else live in his RV somewhere else and then her or him to come visit.
Can someone tell me what I should do or give me insight? Or basically just tell me I'm not the crazy person. I just need an outside perspective because the other people I asked or my in-laws or my partner and I can't talk about it with anyone in my immediate family such as my mom's siblings or my mom's parent because of the fact that she doesn't want anyone to know the true situation of how she's been like this. The entire time that I have been a middle schooler. That none of the bills have been able to be paid and that there's not been any money, and everything's been reliant on my dad and my brother and me. My brother called her out on it a little bit ago and now she doesn't even want to speak to him. So just tell me that I'm not the crazy person that needs daily therapy or hell. Maybe I do need therapy and it's just to fix the things that have been controlled and put into my brain by my parents when I was a child up to now. There are so many more things in my life that happened that I can't even put on here that I can't even begin to describe because it would take me years...
TL;DR: I am living with my mom 54F, who is currently barely making any money with her 14-year cleaning service and cannot afford food for herself, her dogs, and pay her car insurance. She lives with my partner, myself and our 2 young kids in a 2 bed 1 1/2 bath split level townhouse, living in our kid's bedroom. The kids live in our bedroom and have since August 2023. She does not want to do any type of in-person work and loves being able to take time off as she pleases to travel to visit my brother (26 M) in south Florida and not have a boss to ask permission. She said she would consider a remote job but makes a million excuses for that as well. Basically, she does not want to work anywhere aside from the minimal she does with cleaning. I want my children's room back but don't want to force my mom to move-out seeing as she has nowhere to go but her car, unless she gets a full-time job in South Florida, then she can stay with my brother temporarily. He doesn't want to end up stuck with her as I have been. If I try to charge my mom rent for the first time since her living here for almost a year, she will say she is suicidal and scream at me/start an argument and will threaten to live in her car. What is the best way to handle this and how to I do it without feeling immense guilt, to the point of having nightmares that keep me up and keep my mind wandering?
Edit: When we were kids, once my parents separated, my mom would have us sell things of my dad's even if we might have used it at some point, just for a bit of cash toward some bills or fast food and to spite him. She would not ask him to take it, just sell it. Now, the things taking up half of our garage such as projects he was starting but never going to finish or TONS of tools, she had us sell in a garage sale after asking him to remove them. He didn't have the space in an apartment. I bet my brother would have loved to have those tools, a lot of them new or newer and always kept in the giant, stainless steel toolbox. I think we sold the toolbox and all the tools for $100, and my mom made us do it. She did not come outside. We were kids. I also had to try and sell a car without my mom present as a younger child. She was home for both of these occurrences.

WARNING: Very long narrative of my life and past experiences:
I just wanted to try and make sense of life recently. A little backstory. My mom (54 at the time) moved in with my partner, myself and our two girls ( 3 and 1) in August 2023 after her rental property had been sold and she was forced to relocate by September 1, 2023. She had nowhere to go and was not allowed to live with my brother and his wife in the mother in law quarters, due to everything that has happened financially with her, so she had to live with me.
Now, she had a year's notice of needing to move, and being allowed to terminate the lease at any time without penalty should she have the desire or ability to vacate sooner. She had to be out by 9/1/2023. So leading up to this, it's the house I moved into with her as well as my brother then we first relocated to South Florida from Indiana in 2017. That was the house that we called home in Florida. It's the only place my mom knew as her home.
I met my partner in March of 2019 and we found out three months into dating that he had to move back to his home town 4 hours north of where we were. He had a new job and was going back to be near his family. I understood, seeing as we hadn't met yet when he made these plans and seeing as I moved long distance (1200 miles) away from all of my family, my friends, my hometown, everything I ever knew and grew up around. That is what Tampa was to him. I began traveling to visit him because at the time I was a full time college student and was able to. He paid my way and I either took the train or drove my car. More back story: My mom floated around a couple jobs trying to find one that wasn't terrible and also was flexible with my health needs and needing to miss school/go to the D have tests/procedures done. My brother and I eventually switched to virtual learning. I completed sophomore to senior year and he did 8th-12th virtual. It was much easier with the entire situation. Not including the craziness of my dad, who was an alcoholic and violent/abusive, mostly verbal to us but everything to my mom. My parents separated in 2007 and were divorced in 2008. My mom was a stay at home our entire life up until they were separated. My dad didn't want us in daycare or with nannies and didn't want us riding the bus once we were older. Even though we were in a very safe neighborhood and it was actually a very great school system.
Anyway, my mom had to start her life over and floated between jobs, eventually landing as a secretary/assistant in a realtor's office. My mom eventually was tasked with doing house cleanings for their rental properties. Now, even being 2010, the pay was way worse than it should have been. Honestly, my mom had no idea what it would be like doing house cleaning, specifically move out rental property cleanings, which are the worst of the worst. I'm talking bed bugs, maggots, mice, mold, feces, you name it, we saw it. So after doing a couple and realizing it made more than the hourly wage she was making as the receptionist , she decided to do both full time. Now, my brother and I, who at the time were very young, like 11 and 13, started helping My mom at cleanings to make it faster plus she didn't want us alone all the time. We were doing virtual school so it wasn't an issue. There were a couple times before I was in online school where I took off and went and helped her work because I just hated school and my teachers etc because of everything going on with my body. I didn't enjoy it but didn't hate it. It was nice on days where we were able to finish earlier and it wasn't totally disgusting. Plus we were able to spend time together at times. We also got paid typically same day or next day via check so it was great to secure the money. My mom continued this until the office laid her off then she branched off on her own and started a cleaning service in later 2010/2011. My mom became used to us helping her and decided we needed to do this and help her so that she finished faster and would get paid. She also said she couldn't by food if we didn't work because we were living paycheck to paycheck and that she couldn't do it by herself. She told us that she never wanted us to have to get jobs in middle school or high school because she wanted us to focus on our school. Yet we ended up working for her all the time, being paid $0 cash in hand for doing it and instead getting rewarded with fast food, groceries and the bills paid. We did take a family vacation in 2011 that was nice. We also faced a couple hardships around this time. My grandpa( her father) died in 2010 after fighting months of terrible living after having a stroke in 2009. He bounced in and out of the hospital vs a nursing home. Then we lost our dog in 2011, which we had only just gotten back from my dad for 2 years or so, she was 12 when she suddenly became I'll and passed naturally at the vet.
Anyway, even though now, in hindsight, we would have been better off if my mom could have managed to clean alone or have hired someone, then one or both myself and my brother could have gotten jobs somewhere to have cash ourselves but also help with the bills if needed. I did later on, like at age 15, nanny for my neighbor for a couple years as well as working for her tanning salon for a couple months.
Now continue onto 2014, earlier in the year, we had a foreclosure scare where police showed up to escort us off and gave us an hour to gather our belongings and the rest would be for later or locked up with the red ball movers. I was called panicked by my mother that I needed to get there or I would lose my stuff. I guess she didn't know what I wanted or needed. I'm not sure. I was at the tanning salon, which was located at the back of my neighborhood. It just so happened that right before she called, the owner's step son had showed up to tan. I had to rush out and tell him while he was in the tanning booth that it was an emergency and leave the shop. We ended up talking to my dad and he spoke to whoever and they said it was a misunderstanding and left. We ended up being given a timeline of end of July to be out. This is the home I lived in from 6 to almost 19. It was my childhood home. Both my parents were on the mortgage. We had been forced to move out when my parents divorced so that my dad and his gf could move in. Supposedly to renovate and sell it. Instead, he called us one day approximately 2 years later and said we needed to move in or he would let it go to foreclosure since he couldn't or didn't want to sell it. He did not renovate it at all. Of course, me being a child still, was super happy to have my home back. Now, I'm not sure how my mom felt but with the divorce and the messed up child support issues and unfair court hearing and everything else that happened between them. I had to always get in the middle between them, because he would get in a cursing match with my mother so she didn't want to speak to him. So I had to message anytime bills were due and we needed money, to get money for fast food, groceries, for shipping or small travel trips in town to a hotel etc,. I was always in the middle. Now originally, my dad said he didn't want me involved and I shouldn't be etc, but later on he would only talk to me or my brother as well, mainly myself seeing as I was the oldest. I also had to start taking care of bills for him as well.
So continue onward, my dad paid the rent/mortgage my whole life, aside from when he put our house payment on hold for his deployment with the navy and then later on the payments had to be made and he couldn't. I think they wanted a lot of money up front but he didn't have it and it kept accruing so we eventually were foreclosed on. Now, both my parents had poor credit, and my mom didn't make much money or have really any way to prove her income since it was cash and personal checks, not direct deposit. My dad made over $100k a year but was terrible with money and alcoholism and also didn't want to pay bills, only the fun things. He would only pay bills when they were two and three months late and would threaten cancelling or eviction. He paid for our rent at the new place until we moved to Florida in 2017. He also in between that, bought us a couple cars, used, a lot of miles, but ran and were mostly reliable. He had taken some money out of his retirement for up front purchase or later just did payments with buy here pay here. He paid the rent and car but again, it was always late and with fees and threatening to evict. It was always very stressful not knowing what would happen as well as having our phones randomly shut off.
We wanted to move to Florida for college. We could have gone to a state school in Indiana but I was always cold due to anemia and sick all the time from weather changes, so Florida was promising. My dad was very against it and fought us tooth and nail. Eventually after many fights, he agreed. He paid the first, last and security for us to move and co signed the lease to help us get approved. The rent was late every month the entire time we all or eventually, just for my mom to live there until she moved out in 2023. On the positive, my brother met and is now married to his wife and I met and am now with my partner (we both met our S.O in 2019 and have been with them ever since). I have two beautiful girls that I am so happy and lucky to have. My partner and I rescued a dog together in 2020 right before our oldest was born, but sadly in 2022 he passed away very suddenly from lymphoma that showed up 2 days before he had to be put down. We were visiting my mom with him in South Florida when it happened.
Now let's get back to the beginning. My mom has lived with myself, my partner, and our two kids since August 2023. She moved in with us because my brother and his wife would not allow her to move in with them. In the very beginning I assumed it was because his wife was kind of territorial and private and also would have her parents come visit from Brazil time and time again and stay for months at a time. So I figured she didn't want my mom there as well. Later on it came to light in my own head that the reason was for the same reason that we were now stuck. That she was not making enough money doing cleanings. Even with her charging more than what she was previously charging in South Florida and even though she made even more than she made when she first started in 2010, she was still not surviving. She has not survived the entire time. She's done this. She's never been able to afford all of her bills and when my brother and I were in school starting in 2015, we would use our school money that we got from the VA with the GI Bill, which was monthly, as well as the money that we got with our school refunds for taking out loans to the max amount and then using the refund amount after we paid for books and supplies and if we wanted something extra, we would pay for bills like car insurance, 6 months at a time for my mom and helping with other household bills. We had two cars at the time. The one car we went and purchased after selling my little car that we use to move to Florida in and my mom had sold her cheap SUV in Indiana before we moved. We took that 1100 hours from my little car and put it towards a different car that cost $6,900. That was a Nissan Altima with a lot lower mileage and ran really well. I used my school money and my brother used his school money and we used the $1100 from the car and we paid off the car in full and that was going to be my car but I was going to let my mom and brother use it until we were able to figure something out and get another car. Well, a little after that my dad decided to get me a car so we decided to gift that car to my mom. So I rarely drove that car maybe three times. My brother drove it more than me but he used to drive to and from school and he used it also for going to work later on at Jiu-Jitsu which is also where he like to train several times a week. Now. Continue this on living in South Florida, we still worked all the time. Sometimes every single day with my mom. Up until we both started having lives as our significant others. We still never got paid. Very rarely. Maybe two or three times. Did we actually get cash, the rest of it was just paying for our living etc.
So now with my mom living with me, we only live in a two-bedroom townhouse. So she had to take our daughter's room. So now our two girls live in our bedroom and she has the other bedroom. Our girls have limited playspace because it is not a large townhouse. It's only about 1,200 square feet. But it's a split level because it's two stories so it's even less space. We have an outside patio but at the time that was being filled to the brim with her boxes, which now after almost an entire year she's gotten rid of most of her belongings to the trash or donations and only has very few left. Originally we had all planned on her being out within 3 months but that didn't happen because she didn't get a job anywhere except just continuing doing cleanings. Which even working 5 days a week. Unless she worked 8 or 9 hours she does not make enough money to survive, let alone save up money, pay off debt to build credit, and be able to get the chance to actually purchase a house or obtain a rental property. Property. So she's been living with us and still is and everyday has gotten worse and worse because she just stays in that tiny box of a room for all of her meals and spends all of her time in there. Unless she's gone working. A lot of times she will take one or both of my daughters and play with them in that room on the Xbox or whatever. Watching TV or a movie but very rarely do they go outside because we don't have a fence and my mom doesn't want to deal with it. My mom spends all time in that room because of the fact that she has two dogs that also are here that live with her and stay in that room because I have bad dog allergies to most dog breeds so she doesn't want to have the dogs downstairs infecting my area. So she only has them down here as little as possible which is usually when she goes to and from letting them outside or when she's making something to eat. It's made it worse for her because she's turning into a hermit crab situation. She never leaves. She goes to work and comes back and goes in that room and stays. She doesn't have any money to go anywhere or do anything. She doesn't have any health insurance. Doesn't have any way to do anything. Doesn't have any chance to pay off debt, instead. It's just accruing more. She cannot pay to take the kids anywhere like ice cream or to food or whatever, so you could take him to a park but a lot of times it's hot and she just doesn't want to mess with it. My mom has had off and on like bad health issues. Just you know nothing debilitating but just issues with her body like arthritis and other things that have been caused because of her 14 years of doing cleanings with heavy chemicals and not wearing masks or gloves. It takes a toll on your body and it's very hard to deal with. But I just don't know where to turn to which is why I'm here. And I'm sure this sounds like a big rambling fit, but it's very hard for me to try to piece all this together to actually make it make sense. I have constant guilt feeling like I am not taking care of my mom. I'm currently a stay-at-home mom to a one and 3-year-old and feel like I should go and get a full-time night job after my husband gets home from work during the day so that I can help support my mom and help her get a house. My mom has no credit to do so and has had no credit for 15 plus years. There is tons of debt on her credit that needs to be paid off but she feels it's a lost cause. I have taken the time to build up my credit and also had her on my credit card and then authorized user for 3 years which is helping her solely keep her credit come getting lower. I feel like I can't even trust her to watch the kids all day because she said if it's a full-time job then she can't even afford to live because she's not working herself unless I pay her. Which I can't do that unless I get a really high paying job. But she doesn't even make a lot of money right now. In the past months since she's been back she's only worked 2 days for a total of like 8 hours. She does not want to work in person. She had bad experiences in the past which I know was only about 3 or 4 years of her life because the rest of it was stay-at-home mom from like when I was a baby until obviously now. So she only worked 5 years before I was born and then she worked 3 years later on when we were in. You know middle school high school age. She hasn't had a ton of time and you know that 3-year span of when we were older to even hate jobs enough, but something happened between that and everything she went through with my dad to where she doesn't want to work in person. She doesn't like how she looks right now. She's never liked getting her haircut in person even when she had the money too years and years ago when I was a child. Even even when my parents were still married. She doesn't like it. She doesn't like looking in the mirror. She doesn't like making small talk. It just makes her nervous. I have a feeling that there is some sort of childhood trauma and or mental health issues that are going on that are causing all these anxiety and panic attack issues to where she can't work. She tells me that she works in person that it's going to suck and her life's going to be terrible. She makes comments about being suicidal and she says that she would be nauseous everyday going to work. She tries to ration and say that if she went to work somewhere even only a 20-minute drive away that if she's doing that everyday it's going to damage her car and put more wear and tear on it that she can't afford to fix. But right now she'll drive sometimes 40 minutes away to do a cleaning, she even drives to South Florida which is a 5-hour drive, today's with my brother at his house and then we'll work 2 days while she's there and only bring in like $150 and then drive back. Which the gas is not barely covered by that as well as her food while she's there and everything else she does while she's in South Florida. So she's putting all that wear and tear but the money she's making is not even making up for it. Now. I know she likes visiting my brother too and it also gets her out of my smaller house seeing as he has a fence in yard for her dogs and he has a mother-in-law quarters which is where she stays. But I feel like I don't know where to turn. If I tell her to get a job. She says she's already suicidal and that it makes her more suicidal if I mention it and that I'm basically driving her off a cliff. She makes comments like this all the time. She's always in a bad headspace. She makes comments in front of my children like this. Then she needs suicide or other comments and I do not like that because they're very little and even though they don't know what that means, I don't want them mentioning it to someone else. Sometimes she gets an attitude and says she doesn't want to watch my kids even though it'll be only once a week for a date night and I don't expect her to do it all the time. Sometimes it's not even every week. One time I had her babysit for 3 hours so I could go work somewhere doing a quick child care job and she got upset when she found out it wasn't a doctor's appointment but I told her up front that it was for working but she just was upset by it because in her eyes I shouldn't be going to work and making her watch my kids. Even though she is completely 100% against daycare of any kind and said that it's very dangerous and that so many kids get hurt or die and that I cannot put myself or my kids in that danger to go and work somewhere else. Now My partner and I could use the money. It would help us be able to move out of this house quicker rather than waiting another year to year and a half. It would help us be able to have more money to afford things to do with our children but also buying them things they need without feeling like we're pinching money. My dad currently sends me about $150 a week every week and has done that since my mom moved in last August. He's doing that to help out in case she accrues any cost that we have to cover. Like if I buy dog food for her dogs or if I buy her food. Even though my parents despise each other. My dad still wants to keep her fed and make sure she's taken care of and still calls her a good mother instead of when they get in fights. He could say something nasty to me but doesn't. My dad is definitely not a good person, but I'm starting to think that my mom has a lot of demons too. Now just tell me where to turn because I don't know what to do because I feel guilt over everything involving my mom. I feel like I can't say anything to her without it causing a fight and she screams at me. She slams doors like a child. She will go and sit in her car even in 100° heat either with it on or off sometimes for 2 hours and not even have a drink out there with her just because she doesn't want to come inside. She will tell me that I'm the one causing all the fights. My partner has seen her start fights with me and scream at me, my brother has noticed it. She will say thanks to my brother but then she will say thanks to me that are completely different or completely exaggerated. She will tell me. Oh yeah, she can watch the kids whenever I want, but then she'll tell my brother that it's terrible and that she feels like she's doing it all the time and has no relief from it. She very rarely helps around the house except cleaning dishes or vacuuming sometimes or picking up toys. The room she stays in a lot of times has trash overflowing in her small trash can because of all the meals she eats up there and all the drinks she brings up there. At times. She'll argue and say that the kids spill her drink but they spill her drink because they have access to it because she'll leave it down low or they can reach it. We don't even like to have food and drink upstairs in our house but because that's the only place she'll ever eat, we allowed her to do it. But then it's hard because our kids will ask to eat upstairs and we'll tell them no that we're not supposed to have food upstairs. But then they don't understand because they see Grandma do it everyday. So it's a very tough situation. Now. She's gotten to the point where if my brother and I talk and we talk about stuff she said and we can front her on it. She gets very upset because she doesn't like that. We are talking about her and says that we're talking behind her back about her instead of telling it to her face. She called my brother out on something one day that she had said and he proved to her that it was wrong and that she was saying something. Even though she tried to tell me one thing and tell him another. She always tries to depend it on someone else and say oh well. This person said that and then that person said this. I don't think she's doing any of it to be malicious but I think it's like almost she hears that in her mind so then that's what she says. Something happened recently with my dad and she went after she found out about it and told my aunt about it. Who is my mom's sister. None of these people care about my dad. None of them like my dad. Obviously I get it. He's done so many things, but it's the fact that my mom would go and talk about this drama just because she's interested in it or it thinks her you know whatever. Maybe she thinks it's funny. But it's just frustrating and I called her out on it and said it wasn't any of her business to share and she got upset and said oh well. Maybe it's a secret I guess whatever. Everything always ends in a sarcastic remark a lot of times. Recently she said something to my daughter and I didn't like it and I asked her not to say it which I've told other relatives in the past to not say things either. But she's the only one that has said it so badly. That would be sarcastic and then later on wouldn't even play with my daughter without being sarcastic again and saying oh we're going to get in trouble for that even though it was nothing that was actually bad. She was just saying that because she was mad of what I said earlier.
We are at the point where we're going to start charging her rent because lo and behold we have not charged her a single dime since she's been here. Even with us. Also providing occasional dog food, snacks, food for the house, etc. For her if she needed it. There was times that we floated her bills when she was in South Florida, my partner would because I didn't have a job at the time and I wasn't getting school money anymore. After I graduated. . And then I would text my dad even though he's not even really in the picture except when he was paying rent doesn't even owe us child support anymore really. He would still give grocery money for her so she'd have groceries. So here I am now at the ripe old age of almost 29, not knowing what to do, and feeling very guilty. If I want to go purchase buy one get one free perfume without giving one of them to her. Or feeling guilty if I hang out with my sister-in-law who's my age because I don't have anyone else that's close to my age. And I don't have any friends over here yet because I only had friends from college in South Florida and all of my other friends were in Indiana. I feel guilty because my mom's left out. I feel guilty if I go somewhere like if we had the opportunity to go to Indiana or if we had the opportunity to go to Disney world or Disney springs over in Orlando, my mother-in-law lives near there, I would feel guilty that my mom can't go. Even though she probably wouldn't even want to go and even though it's not even involving her, I would still feel guilty. If I go and get a gym membership with my partner, I'm going to feel very guilty about my mom not going, especially if I ever ask her to babysit for us. Because I feel like she wants to go to the gym too. But she doesn't have the income to go because she's not working well. She's not making enough money from what she was doing working. She can work and at one time was working almost every single day but just wasn't making enough to survive which is what my brother and I have tried to explain to her. So now since we've pretty much almost forced her to go and get a real job or at least start looking for one that's not just remote, she's very upset with us and doesn't want to speak to us anymore. She feels like she has nowhere to turn but that she has to still live with me because he won't let her live there because he knows that she would just live there for free.
My brother is in a way better position than me because he doesn't have children right now, his wife has a lot of money and is working, and he is making over 100K a year right now as a programmer and can support her. He is promised to help her within the next 6 months to a year get a house but said that she needs to be working somewhere. That's not cleaning because he wants her to prove that she can actually afford to pay the rent or the mortgage. He doesn't mind helping cosine and he even doesn't mind helping her pay first, last and security. But he does not want to be footing the bill every month for her bills. He was paying all of her bills or most of them every month in South Florida because my dad was supposed to but would come up with excuses not to and my mom didn't have more than $100 or $200 a month to contribute to the rent. So then my brother would have to pay the rest because I wasn't working. Now when we both were getting school money we were able to take care of everything. We took care of all the car insurance for like 2 years for my mom. She didn't pay one dime. You'd also pay for other incidentals too like random TV expenses or going to a hotel or paying for fast food etc. Now. My partner and I would really love for us to be able to get that bedroom back so that our children can actually sleep in their own room and we can actually do things in our room like stay awake and talk without waking up our kids or watch a movie together or whatever we want and not have to feel like we have to go downstairs, especially if we're tired. But right now we can't do that. But if I feel like I need to tell her she has to leave she doesn't have a job and hasn't saved any money even though she's been here almost a year which originally her intent was she was supposed to be saving money and working so that she could move. But that hasn't happened and I don't know when it will happen. It feels like everything is just repeated and repeating. It's been repeating since 2010 and I don't know how to make it any better. I always feel like it's my fault somehow and that I need to fix it that I've always had to be the fixer and that I'm parenting my parent. It sucks because I hate feeling that way, I hate the way the guilt has made me feel. I hate the way that my mom and I have a relationship now. That's worse when she's here but better when she leaves. We're actually able to tolerate each other and talk to each other because it's not about bills or her living with us or the fact that she needs to get a job. We just talk about things that we normally talk about. But when she's here we just go to world war 3 sometimes and it's terrible. It's not a good look for us. It's not good for my kids to be around, my oldest is getting scared of the fights and gets upset and tries to talk everybody down. That should not be put on her at this age. I went through that when I was a kid and it should not be on her.
Obviously I have issues too but my mom does not want to go to therapy even though the only therapy she ever had was court ordered and I told her this would be completely different. I also told her that everyone should have therapy because it's better than trying to just rant to your family. I know that she has a lot of stress and built up anger and resentment for everything that's going on and feels like she doesn't know where to turn. I know that my mom feels like that she has failed even though she works really hard. She's failing by not being able to survive but she just doesn't want to admit it. I just don't honestly know what to do or where to go. And if you talk to my brother he says oh well if she doesn't want to pay rent and she just moves out and lives in her car. That's on her. But she's not in her right mind. What normal person wants to live in their car. Why would a normal person want to threaten putting their 13-year-old dog that they've had that entire time into a shelter rather than give it to their son or daughter. It doesn't make any sense but I just honestly don't know where to turn to. I do not want to feel like I'm forcing my mom to leave and I know if I ask her to pay rent she's going to say she doesn't have the money to pay rent because truthfully she can't even barely pay her $130 car insurance. Something happened with the phone plan with my dad and now we're going to have to get off of it. She doesn't have the money for that. We have to pay off the phones that we had on a monthly payment with my dad. He's been paying it my entire life with us not contributing one dime. And that includes my mom. She's still on his plan and so are my brother and I. But something happened. So my brother and I are going to pay off our phones and transfer to T-Mobile. We don't want my mom on our plan even if that line is free because we don't want the risk of her having to owe money and not have it and us have to foot the bill every month. And it sucks that we have to even act like that but that's just how it is. If we talk about the phone situation and try to help her. She gets very upset and doesn't want to talk about it and says that we're trying to tell her what to do and control her..
This is how all of our conversations go basically. We try to say one thing and she'll misconstru it as another. Such as when she was seeing this guy for a year and a half and then she stopped talking to him and then she started talking to him again and I told her that I wanted her to be happy and that if she wanted to make it work with him and if that meant she had to be in South Florida then she could. Because flashback to win I first had my child she would come and visit off and on and stay here and I'd go stay there and I always told her she should move to the side of the state because it's cheaper and there's More work opportunities and she'd be able to be near her grandchildren. Now. She wouldn't have moved here if she wasn't forced to but she moved here because of the bad situation she got put in. But she tells everyone that I forced her to move here and that it's my fault. Even though she literally was end of lease and they were not resigning and had nowhere to go. She had no credit. No job, no money saved. Basically nothing to her name except $100. We had to foot the bill for the moving truck so that she could move to bring all of her stuff here and we hadn't split the bill to open up a storage unit. But then he ended up having tons of issues and not being able to move and not getting a job. So eventually the storage unit had to get paid month after month by my partner and I. And then we had to sell all of our stuff and take the rest of our house which eventually, led to it being trashed/ donated except for what she decided to keep. I know her life is tough in that small room and that she doesn't even have a closet because I use it for my kids. And she can't have a dresser because we already have a dresser in there for my kids. But my daughter starts school in August and she's never been in school before and we really wanted them to have their own room back by then but it's just not happening and it makes me and my partner sad. But then I feel worse if I try to say that my mom needs to leave because I feel like I'm forcing her to go and get a job where she doesn't want to and that it's my fault and the situation is my fault and that it's my fault. I don't have a bigger house that she could have lived in with us for longer and she always said in the past that she wanted us to all live in the same house together and just have it be bigger. And I don't know if that's because we could all be close together or if it's because she wanted us to support her. I don't know. I really don't know where to turn to. I don't know what to do. I don't know what's right. I don't know what's wrong. From what I know financially after trying to fix myself and seeing my partner who's very financially responsible. I know that she should get a job and that would help her get her retirement built up. That would help her be able to get in medical insurance, dental insurance, vision be able to do frivolous things like shopping or getting her hair done or whatever she wants to do nails whatever. Be able to go and visit friends. She doesn't even go into situations right now where she can meet friends. And a lot of times she goes on a date with a guy that she knows is probably not going to be someone she's attracted to but I feel like she does it because she wants a man to support her so she can move in with them. She always said that her and her ex-boyfriend didn't work out because he didn't want to move in with her and be stuck paying half or all of the bills for her. And that he wanted to just live in his RV in her driveway or else live in his RV somewhere else and then her or him to come visit.
Can someone tell me what I should do or give me insight? Or basically just tell me I'm not the crazy person. I just need an outside perspective because the other people I asked or my in-laws or my partner and I can't talk about it with anyone in my immediate family such as my mom's siblings or my mom's parent because of the fact that she doesn't want anyone to know the true situation of how she's been like this. The entire time that I have been a middle schooler. That none of the bills have been able to be paid and that there's not been any money and everything's been reliant on my dad and my brother and I. My brother called her out on it a little bit ago and now she doesn't even want to speak to him. So just tell me that I'm not the crazy person that needs daily therapy or hell. Maybe I do need therapy and it's just to fix the things that have been controlled and put into my brain by my parents when I was a child up to now. There are so many more things in my life that happened that I can't even put on here that I can't even begin to describe because it would take me years...
Edit: When we were kids, once my parents separated, my mom would have us sell things of my dad's even if we might have used it at some point, just for a bit of cash toward some bills or fast food and to spite him. She would not ask him to take it, just sell it. Now, the things taking up half of our garage such as projects he was starting but never going to finish or TONS of tools, she had us sell in a garage sale after asking him to remove them. He didn't have the space in an apartment. I bet my brother would have loved to have those tools, a lot of them new or newer and always kept in the giant, stainless steel tool box. I think we sold the toolbox and all the tools for $100 and my mom made us do it. She did not come outside. We were kids. I also had to try and sell a car without my mom present as a younger child. She was home for both of these occurrences.

In like 2010~ I ate that chocolate chip cookies from a brand that I don't remember its name it has a white packaging and the logo I think was a dude with an Afro haircut + I remember they had a large cookie version of a bag with small ones do you know what is the brand's name????

Hi BWT! I am a former NYC BWT who is currently living in New Orleans- previously lived in south Williamsburg from 2010-2021. I am applying for jobs in NYC again (I’m a teacher, and please get me out of Louisiana) and have an interview near Columbia on Tuesday morning. I am going to meet my friend for dinner in Washington Heights but that leaves a whole day for me to wander around by myself in between, and I’m trying to decide what would best serve me! I am curious because I’m sure the city has changed—I’ve been back a few times of course, but I keep hearing that it’s “different” now. What do you think I should do to occupy myself and get a taste of what it might feel like to move back, while not spending a million dollars because I’m currently operating on a Louisiana teacher salary budget? Merci! Some notes: I will prob end up at a museum but I have been to all of them many times, so maybe something different? I might get a haircut? Or nails done? I looked at like Great Jones spa but then that’s also racking up the $$ but it may be inevitable…

I really like those “eye-catchy” haircuts so like i dunno
Maybe get an asymmetric bob (my haircut’s like a textured bob) and shave the left sideeee I’d look cool I think

Howdy all.
I used to have short hair when I was younger before I made the mistake of growing it out. A high school friend of mine (who I haven't been in contact with for a while) was the one to cut it short, so I have no prior knowledge of good hairstylists to visit. 😅 It's been extremely daunting trying to find a stylist in the area who can cut short curly/wavy hair well, since so many recommended places here either only do long hair or only do things like Karen cuts and bobs/pixies. 😬
I'm hoping to find a stylist that caters more to alternative/queer hairstyles and listens to their clients wants rather than handing out unfitting suggestions. (Trans man (FTM), had my fair share of unwanted input from LGBT-unfriendly stylists when I was a kid and plenty of poor haircuts that weren't what I had told them I wanted.)
Additional info if it's of any help in pinning a perfect stylist - My hair type is wavy, about 2B/2C, and is fine/mid density. Looking to get something similar to Gabriel (angel form, played by Tilda Swinton) from the Constantine movie. (Not sure the exact term for the haircut. I guess "short wolf cut with undercut and asymmetric curtain bangs" would be a good description?)

With productive farming, the oil industry, and the major highway I-44 running through the county, there are historical sites. Visits should check out some of the more popular spots.
The unemployment would lead a man to kill, breaking the commandments. The jury voted with head and heart. “Thou shalt not steal”, “Thou shalt not kill”, and love thy neighbor seemed a long way from this story.
Ronson Kyle Bush is a man whom, to say the least, is a man with many problems. The first of those being aggressive and abusive. The second, he landed on death row after a long criminal history.
Ronson Bush made himself as well-known a quantity to law enforce as anyone could get. The Grady Police picked him up for bar fights and bad behavior that led to more than just abusing his wife.
Stepanie Morgan married in 1998 To Ronson Bush. It would be not long after that the nightmares of not knowing his moods became the worst kind of game ever, a game of survival. After two years of this aggressive abuse, Stephanie got out and got a divorce. It would still take a long time to get any child support and he even claimed the child wasn’t his.
Bush was always obsessive. He would follow her around in the daytime instead of working. She felt trapped, imprisoned, by his mental illness and his unwillingness to do something better. He was a heavy alcoholic. Bush would end up with a DUI.
After the divorce, his behavior became increasingly alarming. It was as if he was already poised for this behavior. Bush’s didn’t seem to pause with the marriage. Instead, he became more aggressive, and harming those he swore he loved. It is obvious his love map is extremely confused. His marriage to a good Christian woman ended in 2000.
It is quite the set back as far as being able to prove he was something more than just an abusive drunk. He was mentally ill, with bouts of jealous, anger management, and paranoia. This led to following his ex-wife around as if he owned her, even causing confrontations if he found her having a date. Bush didn’t believe their marriage was over and he owned her.
Reportedly, Billy Harrington, his closest friend, often tried to help Bush through mental health and legal events. He often helped get Bush into a facility, in Oklahoma or out of jail. But Bush could be very combative, to the point of violence, even on his closet friend. A thing Billy would not live to regret.
Stephanie Morgan, Bush’s ex-wife, had a restraining order against him due to his nature, domestic abuse was a big issue in the divorce. They had one child together, and this restraining order was the best way to protect her child. This was a sour apple pie for Bush. Bush felt justified in often violating the restraining order. After all this was His wife and she had promised him forever. Those vows meant something to him but to her she threw their love away. But Bush had several nefarious things on his plate, in between tormenting his ex-wife.
The child he refused and was cruel to, had one good thing starting out, his MOTHER. The child was given a paternity test in 2010, this sealed the deal for Bush on the child. Too bad he was such a terrible human being to others, were he not, his family would be there for him. And this murder would not have occurred.
Even before the marriage to and during the dating of Stephanie he was breaking and entering, beating people up and even the DUI. In 1997, Bush was convicted of Second-degree burglary.
In 1999 he stole a credit card and ended up charged with stealing the card and possession of a stolen credit card.
In 2001, he would be convicted of 3 counts of receiving/possession of stolen property, and 19 counts of uttering a foreign instrument. He received twenty years in prison and later got out in 2007.
On the evening of December 22, 2008, while at Billy Harington's home, Ronson Bush shot Harrington six times with Harrington's .357 caliber revolver. Harrington made it to the front yard of the home, where he collapsed. Bush then tied Harrington to the back of his pickup and dragged him into a field near the house.
Everyone gave accounts, Harrington and Bush had been best friends for a number of years. Harrington did what he could to aid Bush who dealt with addictions, paranoia, and other related mental illnesses. Harrington's final attempts to assist Bush came just days before the shooting. On December 18, Harrington attempted to take Bush to Griffin Memorial Hospital in Norman, Oklahoma but Bush was exceedingly drunk, and the two men fought during the trip.
Harrington left Bush in a parking lot in Norman and drove on to Tulsa for work. Bush hitched a ride back to Harrington's trailer. When Harrington arrived home that evening, accompanied by Jimmy Barrington, they found Bush passed out on the couch with Harrington's firearms purposefully placed around the house. Concerned for his safety, Harrington made a call to the County Sheriff's Office. It didn’t take long for deputies to respond. This wasn’t the first time with Mr. Bush.
Calling the Jefferson sheriff's office for assistance was the beginning of the end of a situation too far over the heads of all those involved, including Bush. Bush was already fast approaching his break during all the traumatic turmoil he had caused. The disaster he left in his wake left Bush on the outs of society.
There had yet to be an altercation with the deputies, Harrington didn’t want that for his friend, Bush. Sadly, this situation also foreshadowed a series of events involving his ex-wife and his best friend.
Drunk and combative when officers arrived. Bush had to be subdued and found himself nearly under arrest for resisting and officer. Bush had several priors by this point, including a murder he was acquitted of committing. This didn’t mean he didn’t do it; everyone just knew the kind of man he was. For that reason alone, the officers didn’t waste time getting to the Harrington’s trailer.
Harrington not wanting his best friend behind bars, kept them from taking Bush that night from jail. After negotiating with the officers that Bush would voluntarily check himself into the Griffin Memorial Hospital, they apprehensively let it go. One of the deputies muttered as he left, “man, your too good a friend for this.” But without any official report of charges, they couldn’t take him without Harrington stating a trespassing or other more serious threat.
Harrington was convinced Bush just needed help and his friend, Harrington, was determined to get Bush help from some professionals. Unfortunately, Part of Bush’s illness inspires great distrust in said professionals.
Along with a long criminal history in the state of Oklahoma, Bush had also seen more than his fair share of mental and physical illness. Even as a child, his parents had treated him differently, he was “loved” like most children, it was almost as if Bush were merely tolerated.
It was not enough hugs, genetics, a terrible skill set for making choices, and his inability to tell who was truly, just his friend trying to help and the rest of the world, which landed him on death row in Oklahoma.
Harrington, again, agreed to take Bush back to Griffin Memorial Hospital. Where Bush voluntarily admitted himself for treatment. This was not his first ride in the mental health unit. He wasn’t about to stay, not of his by his own hand.
Bush checked out on December 22, just a few days before Christmas. Thoughts of his ex-wife and child, mainly his ex-wife, dance through his head like sugar plumb fairies, armed with jack and sledgehammers. Darkness was creeping into his sober, troubled mind. He refused the medication upon leaving. Because he went willing and signed himself into the facility, Bush was able to check himself out of the hospital.
Not having had a way home from Norman, when Bush got out of Griffin Memorial Hospital, he called Harrington for a ride. Even though he was a friend of Bush, very loyal to the end, with the best of intentions to his friend. Harrington should have thought twice and told him to stay, take the meds, get help. But Harrington drove to Norman to get his ill friend.
They made their way to return to Harrington's home. Along the way, bush insisted on stopping at a liquor store. Harrington didn’t think it was a good idea and discussed it and discussed it. Harrington was hoping to dissuade Bush from alcohol, he attempted to distract Bush the best he could. But they finally ended up stopping in Blanchard, Oklahoma.
Much to Harrington’s frustration and disappointment, Bush drank vodka from a pint bottle on the way home. All the while he thought of all the men who had been with his “wife”. He just could not bear it, the thoughts of all those little Nutcrack Toy Soldiers parading around “his” home, in front of his “wife”. Harrington had not a single clue as to the self-torment slowly ready to boil over in Bush’s head. Like a country band attempting to play dance of the sugar plum fairies only on banjos and tabletop guitars, it just wasn’t going to go well, there seemed to be nothing to stop the train wreck of thoughts Bush had toward anyone, Harrington included.
Every so often Bush would say something under his breath as if speaking to himself. This made Harrington only slightly uncomfortable. This had been his best friend since grade school and Harrington believed he knew this man, this friend better than any other human on the planet. Harrington would sadly be proven wrong.
Once back at Harrington’s home, they played with Harrington’s dogs, bullshitting, and talking about the world. All the while Bush’s brain slowly cooked over the men in his ex-wife’s life.
Harrington sat his friend down for a haircut hoping to let Bush sober up a bit and maybe get a little sense. This haircut would be the last one that Harrington gave to anyone.
The men decided, for some reason, it was a good idea to shoot guns off the back porch. Some very bad decision making was shown with this act. Harrington wasn’t aware of how his friend was quickly evolving into the green-eyed monster. The jackhammers inside Bush’s brain pounded out of rhythm. The last dosage of medication at the hospital, and the days he took it, combined with alcohol in vast amounts, as Bush drank it would only lead to additional fuel for his psychosis. A kind of possessive darkness crept slowly in, ever since Harrington picked him up from the hospital, it only seemed to grow darker faster. Harrington had no idea what was about to boil over and change the harshest of realities for his loved ones, losing Billy.
Sometime around 7:15 p.m., Harrington was talking to his girlfriend on the phone. Harrington’s girlfriend heard Bush in the background. The idea that Bush was at her boyfriend’s house made her blood freeze. She knew her boyfriend, Billy, was loyal to Bush. But she had said before maybe the friendship was taking advantage of his very kind nature.
Things started downhill when Harrington mentioned he had gotten Christmas presents for Stephanie Morgan, an ex-girlfriend, and her child. As a friend, he was so loyal he considered it his duty and his kind heart weren’t going to let that child think Bush didn’t love him. So, as a good friend to Bush, Harrington had gotten them a little something. It wasn’t really anything to write home about, but Harrington had been a little generous. After all he considers himself the godfather.
Harrington told Bush to forget about Morgan, as she was sleeping with other people. According to Bush, Harrington had even gone on to say he had slept with her. More fuel for his dark thoughts if Harrington had really said this to him. Law enforcement only have Bush’s account to confirm details.
Bush felt provoked by Harrington’s push to forget about Morgan. Morgan had tried to go on with the life of herself and her child, Bush wouldn’t let them leave him behind. That was “HIS” wife and his child. NO ONE was going to do anything for them or be in her bed, it wasn’t going to be his best friend, Harrington.
Bush said he snapped; it was too much for his darkness to handle. Bush picked up the .357 revolver and started shooting Harrington. They were in the den, Harrington got up. He didn’t pick up the gun they had and fired back, he turned away from his friend to flee the gunshots. The first would be in the front. Harrington managed to make it to the kitchen, Bush continued to fire into the back of his now former best friend. He kept shooting Harrington as he made it out to the front yard where he collapsed.
Bush wasn’t satisfied with just shooting his friend once in the front and five times in the back as he tried to flee. This turned from a flash of anger to revenge in less than a heartbeat. Bush hooked his friend, Billy, to his own truck and drug him around, while still dying from the gunshot wounds. He had become a mass of unrecognizable him.
Bush took a photograph of Harrington just minutes before he shot his friend, and nothing seemed amiss; minutes later, however, Bush shot and killed Harrington, then drug him like an animal around behind Harrington’s own truck.
Around 7:44 p.m. Harrington's mother, Kathy Harrington, tried to call Harrington's cell phone, Bush answered. Kathy Harrington had already been worried when her son told her he was going to pick up Bush from the hospital. A mother’s intuition screamed inside her head. Kathy’s heart had the ache of a mother who knew something was wrong.
Bush kept putting Mrs. Harrington off, probably because Harrington was already dead. Finally, she heard the crunching of leaves and gravel. A moment later Bush told her Billy couldn’t talk on the phone, that wasn’t capable of speaking to her or anyone else, then he hung up the phone.
Mrs. Harrington’s heart hammered in her ears as she called friends to go check on her baby boy. Sherrif’s office arrived out there with Mrs. Harrington’s friends, discovered Billy Harrington's body a field near his home. Billy was dumped like a carcass left for the vultures.
Bush took off in Harrington’s truck. Grady County Sherriff’s department was on it the moment his mother had given a description of his truck. The idea of this loyal friend shot and then drug to death in a most disrespectful manner, it sickened the deputies on scene.
Bush had one thought on his mind, when he stole Harrington’s truck. He wanted to get back at that Bitch, who’d just made Bush kill his best friend. This was all her fault. She let any man into her bed and just didn’t value the vows they took they day they got married. However, Morgan was still out, she would be a work for at least another hour. Bush knew this, by heart, having married her. This gave him time, on his already bloody hands.
Bush stopped at a liquor store to get beer. Then he headed to morgan’s to wait. When he arrived, it wasn’t hard to get in. He simply kicked in the secluded back door.
It didn’t take him long to finish the beer he’d brought with him. He knew Morgan kept commemorative liquor bottles in her room, old and unopened. This was a problem he could solve for his ex-wife. He staggered his way to the bedroom they had once shared with each other.
Bush paused in the hallway. He felt as though he were a broken man. His best friend had been brutally taken from him, and his wife was trying to leave him forever and was cheating on him with every man in town, including his own best friend. Now, Morgan was going to pay for all the hurt she had caused.
Staggering on down the hallway, Bush didn’t bother to turn any of the lights on in the house. He didn’t need to; he had lived there with his wife during the good years of their marriage. This was all before she left him and started cheating with others. She had taken their child, for all Bush knew, the whore could be doing it right in front of his own child.
As he drank, Bush laid down on the bed, one of the bottles in his hand. He sipped from it as Morgan made her way in the dark. She’d heard noises as soon as she’d gotten home.
Morgan had gotten the call before leaving work, Harrington had been murdered by his best friend, her ex-husband. Morgan knew it wouldn’t be long before he would come to see her.
Morgan moved through the darkness, she trembled harder and harder with each step. She could hear noises, long dead from the past of her marriage to the monster she’d come to know all too well. She didn’t understand how Harrington could forgive him so much and yet now he was dead.
In her heart, Morgan knew she was next. She wasn’t going to cower and wait. She wasn’t about to let him use their child like she’d seen on television. She would allow this to become a hostage situation.
Her hands found the walls, her fingertips trembled against the wall so hard she could have been a telegraph operator without the telegraph. Each finger shook of its own accord. She didn’t know if it was true fear, or anger. White hot anger filled her with the rage of a thousand suns. She’d seen a star explode on the PBS show NOVA, and she could feel it build in her with each step down the hallway. As she came closer to the open bedroom door, she felt her feet turn to molasses.
Morgan heard him breath. That heavy alcoholic breath and sigh so heavily, Morgan remembered from the marriage. A sour pit in her stomach formed as she rounded the door frame and plastered that automatic smile on her face, as if she were happy to see him.
The conversation felt like it droned on forever, drowning Morgan in her ex-husband’s thoughts. They discussed things at length, most of which were a moot point, no matter what. Morgan made him all kinds of promises as she slowly inched back out of the door frame. Her heart hammered out of her chest as the adrenaline rose up in fear, threatening to take over. Her fear was on His side, and she was not about to let either of them win. Finally, she told him she would be right back, she made a bee line for the front door, only to have Bush follow.
Bush was still talking and accusing as they got outside. Morgan got into her car but wasn’t quick enough to lock the doors. Bush got in with her on the passenger side. It didn’t take long for other notice Bush. With help from others, Morgan was able to get Bush out of her car. It was long after the authorities arrived.
Bush allowed them to take him, he chose not to go quietly and banged himself up a little in the process. He continued to cry and sobbed, he then confessed to the murder of his best friend, Billy Harrington. He had broken the commandment “love thy neighbor.” It was obvious he had not learned the lessons taught in The Good Book.
No one cared right at that moment how many fits the piece of garbage had throne; it wouldn’t make a difference. He had Murdered one of his own, and that wasn’t looked on kindly anywhere in Oklahoma.
After being taken into custody, Bush was taken to the Grady County Jail. This was his last taste of freedom, not only because he couldn’t help himself, but also, he refused mental health treatments. This wasn’t and still isn’t an uncommon occurrence, to refuse mental health treatment. Even for the ones who do, there are a limited number of beds available. Bush would have triaged it as harmful to others and himself. This would again have helped the people he hurt.
If a person tells you who he is, believe him. Don’t wait for him to Show you his true sides, the darker sides of a human psyche. Bush found his darkness easy to cling to and it came easier when he drank, which was often.
Bush would go to trial, but as he was nearly through, he requested to put in his plea. This changed things for the legal persons representing Bush and the Prosecutors. Bush would waive the rest of the trial for a guilty plea. It was to “save the family” from any more pain. But each of the members of the family was crying, heartbroken as they testified during the penalty phase of the proceedings.
Bush received a death sentence for his heinous crimes. His appeals on death row would be denied. He now waits on Oklahoma death row for a date that will mean the end of his life.

TLDR is organized as the section titles for your convenience!
We have been together for 8-9 months.
[TLDR 1: I set up a haircut appointment for boyfriend and he said okay three times before the day of the haircut and never said no]
I found a very good hair salon and I really liked their cleanliness and how skilled the hair stylists were.
I decided that I want my boyfriend to also get a men's haircut there since he usually always struggles with his hair in the morning because his current barber cuts his hair asymmetrically.
He works a blue collar job where he only gets one day off of the week and works with a majority of older men, so I wanted to treat him to a self-care day with a haircut and a shampoo-conditioning head massage where he can just relax.
When I told him that I set up a haircut for him a week before the appointment, his first reaction was "Whaaaat? Oh geez." and then he said "thanks babe, I guess I could make the time to go for the appointment."
Two days before the appointment the salon called to confirm the appointment, and when I asked him again "Do you still want to go to the haircut appointment two days from now or do you want to just go to your regular barber?" he said "No, I'll just go to your place."
[TLDR 2: Boyfriend is confused why he is going to the salon that I am recommending if I don't even have a specific style in mind for him. He gets even more upset when we arrive at the salon.]
The night before the appointment my boyfriend started asking me what specifically I have in mind for his new hair style, and when I told him I was just going to ask for a hairstyle that is easy to get-up-and-go in the morning and fix the top part to be more symmetrical, he got a little upset and confused that I didn't have a specific hair style in mind for him.
The day of the appointment, in the morning we were planning out our day and we decided to go grocery shopping and then hiking together, and I suggested that we can skip the haircut since he seemed uncomfortable with going to a new barber.
He happily said "Okay!" and we finished our grocery shopping.
When we got back to the car, I noticed that we were just 10 minutes away from the hair salon anyways and the hair appointment was 20 minutes away. So I asked if we could just go to the haircut appointment.
But then my boyfriend's mood went bad very fast from there on our drive to the hair salon, to the point where by the time we were parked in front of the salon he was huffing and puffing and complaining that I set up an appointment he never asked for.
[TLDR 3: Boyfriend meets hairstylist. Haircut comes out great and he gets a head massage and shampoo treatment from stylist. He gets very upset that I paid for his haircut in front of the cashier and hairstylist, which is the first time he got upset that I paid for something for us. Then leaves a cash tip for stylist.]
When we got into the salon, he was able to keep a straight face and was polite to the staff. When we met the hairstylist, who was around our age, she greeted us and offered me a seat right next to my boyfriend and began asking me about my hair goals for him and asked my boyfriend about himself.
She complimented that he has amazing hair and when he answered her question about what he's doing this weekend by saying he can't do anything because he works six days a week, she said she's in the same boat and that she works all weekday too.
She kept initiating conversation with him and he got to a point where he came out of his shell and started asking her questions too.
When she was done she took him to the back to do the shampoo and conditioning treatment.
The haircut came out amazing.
After that, she walked us up to the front to the cash register.
My boyfriend started to take out his wallet but I got in front of him and covered the cost for him instead, because I felt bad that he felt like I dragged him to an appointment he didn't want.
He then took out some cash and asked the cashier how he could tip the stylist, and the cashier said it's an envelope system where the customer writes their name and the stylist's name on the envelope.
He immediately began writing his name down and then I saw him pause because he couldn't remember the stylist's name.
I took the pen and wrote the name down for him, and he took the envelope from my hand and folded the envelope and put it in the tip box.
When we left the salon and got in the car, he wouldn't say a single word to me.
It took 15 minutes of dead silence for him to finally open up and say
"When you see me taking my wallet out, please don't get all giddy next to me and make a big deal out of covering for me. If I already have my wallet out ready and you want to use your card instead, you can just virtually send by an app instead of making a big deal"
I was shocked because during the 8 months we've been together, he has never once expressed any kind of anger at all when I covered for us at restaurants or grocery stores or at shopping malls and did the little fight over who gets to cover the check. He was usually kind of smitten about it.
I said I'm shocked and asked why he didn't tell me this before,
and he said he always felt upset when I did that but that today he was already really upset and me cutting him off to pay for him made him even more upset.
I apologized and he apologized and we were off to go hiking.
[TLDR 4: Boyfriend "jokes" that hairstylist was kissing him and that she was all over him when they were in the shampoo and conditioning room. Brings up hairstylist's first name that I wrote down for him on the tip envelope and keeps "joking" about how intimate the massage was. When I warn him to stop and set a boundary, he apologizes and explains why he was making those jokes.]
By the time we were almost there, I warmed up to him and said "the haircut came out so amazing though! Don't you think?"
He started laughing and said "yeah, especially when she took me to the backroom and started to kiss me and get all up on me like muah muah muah muah!" and then I told him to stop BSing and he laughed even more and said "Oh what was her name again? Oh! Be-a-tri-ce? Right?"
I got so angry that I stopped talking to him and told him to turn the car around.
He looked surprised and said "I'm so sorry" and we were both silent from then on.
He then explained that this was the first time he's ever been to a salon where the majority of the people were all women. He asked how I would feel getting a haircut at a men's barber shop.
He said he never experienced a hairstylist massaging his head and washing his hair for him before.
He said he felt guilty about even just going to a backroom with the hairstylist where I can't see, and that it made him nervous and really uncomfortable and he wanted to be able to talk with me about it openly but didn't know how to do so without making it too serious.
The hike diffused the situation a little and we ended up coming back safely.
[TLDR 5: He apologizes, I put my anger on hold since I'm not sure if I brought this whole situation on to myself by taking him to a salon he never asked for, but I still have a huge doubt on whether he even actually respects me.]
When we got back I told him how serious his "joking" is and that paired with how he got upset at me for paying for him at the salon, it makes me think he is much more occupied with what the hairstylist who he met for one day thinks of him than what I think of him when he throws a temper tantrum at me after a haircut that was meant to be a gift for him from me.
He kept saying he doesn't know why he thought the joke was funny and that he was wrong for it.
The only thing putting me on pause is the guilt I feel about maybe I should have never taken him to the salon in the first place.
What do you think?

In the small town of Oakwood Springs, where whispers of the supernatural linger in the shadows, young Tim found himself engulfed in a chilling nightmare that began with a simple click on Reddit. As the moon cast an eerie glow through his window, Tim delved into the depths of the platform until exhaustion overtook him, and he drifted into a restless slumber.
Awakening to the soft murmur of his mother's voice calling from downstairs, Tim groggily rose from his bed, the morning sunlight streaming through the curtains. He descended to the kitchen, where his mother delivered the simple yet dreaded news – today was his haircut day. Panic surged through Tim as he pleaded with her, but her decision remained unwavering.
An hour later, under the cold gleam of the barbershop lights, Tim sat resigned in the haircutting chair. His locks fell to the floor, symbolizing the loss of his identity, yet despite the taunts and jeers at school, he bore the burden with stoic indifference.
A decade passed, marked by the haunting memory of February 29, 2010, the day of his inexorable trim and the date of his mother's unexpected passing ten years later. Unbeknownst to Tim, the strands of fate intertwined with his hair, weaving a sinister web of darkness.
That fateful night, as the clock struck midnight, a spectral presence stirred within his closet, its silent malevolence creeping closer. Ignoring the faint noises at first, Tim's nonchalance swiftly transformed into terror when a thunderous bang shattered the stillness of his room.
In the dim light, he beheld a ghastly figure standing tall, skin ashen and eyes devoid of life, a grotesque grin stretching impossibly wide. In a heartbeat, death claimed him, the entity exacting its vengeance for a forgotten sin.
As the last breath escaped Tim, realization dawned – his fatal mistake lay in the innocent act of a haircut, a ritual unknowingly tied to a malevolent force craving retribution for a past long buried.
The echoes of his demise lingered in the shadows of Oakwood Springs, a cautionary tale etched in the town's folklore, a reminder of the harrowing consequences that awaited those who dared to defy the twisted whims of the unknown.
Thus, the tragic tale of Tim unfolded, a spectral specter forever trapped in the realm between the living and the dead, his legacy a warning to those who dared to tempt the darkness hidden within the mundane.

Hi, i'm new here. So I hope this is the right place to post. I'm a 23 year old male, living in Germany. I have a really long, droopy and crooked nose. Especially when I see pictures of me, I never look straight at the camera and when I get a haircut, it's always asymmetrical because the barber try's to align it with my nose : (In addition to that I have problems with breathing. So I want to undergo surgery to fix this. Now my question: Where is the best place to do this ? Germany ? Türkiye? I would also appreciate recommendations to clinics and surgeons :) I have a budget of around 5000-6000€. Thanks :)

Hi, i‘m new here. So I hope this is the right place to post. I‘m a 23 year old male, living in Germany. I have a really long, droopy and crooked nose. Especially when I see pictures of me, I never look straight at the camera and when I get a haircut, it’s always asymmetrical because the barber try’s to align it with my nose :( In addition to that I have problems with breathing. So I want to undergo surgery to fix this.
Now my question: Where is the best place to do this ? Germany ? Türkiye? I would also appreciate recommendations to clinics and surgeons :) I have a budget of around 5000-6000€.
Thanks :)

Child Support and paternity fraud plz help
Where do I begin. For the purpose of this post, I will use fictious names and locations as it is ongoing, and out of respect (even though she doesn't deserve any)
My name is Daniel. I am 35 years old, and i am dying. I have a disease called systemic sclerosis. I am currently on a supplemental disability plan, until I get approved for SSI (social Security). Until then, my income is about 4K a month. I own a home but after child support and bills, NOT INCLUDING gas, food, haircuts, medical appointments, and or emergencies like my fridge just broke. (which i never go out) I am left with $260 that has to last me a month. I also have three children who I have to take care of half the time per the 50/50 agreement.
Recently, I found out my oldest, (who is 13) is not biologically mine. I decided to look into it as I had concerns for a while since my divorce as her cheating was very rampant. I also had caught her in 2017 with a man in my house, which is what prompted the divorce. But FL being a no fault state, doesn't matter. I also had to pay child support since the beginning and WHILE LEGALLY Married since 2010 because she had applied for financial support like food stamps and government assistance then. I know what your thinking. Why didnt you stop it then? I tried. You cant take yourself off child support. I also never grew up with a father and wanted that two-parent household. I don't run from responsibilities, like he did. Its how I was raised. Anyways, I married her, tried to do the right thing, she lied numerous times. she never worked, and I worked 90 plus hours a week. To look into her cheating, was impossible at the time as I was never home. and to busy providing for my family.
fast forward to now. My disease started to become worse and over three years; it didn't reveal itself until last year fully to actually pinpoint what this was. for instance, I had in 2019 pain behind my eyes and horrible headaches to the point that I thought I had MS. following year, I had trouble swallowing for 3 months. next year itching in the skin for three months. But prior, I had visited various doctors to see what was going on, each time a flare up then would last 3 to four months, which again, when you don't understand what's going on, you need to take time off to go see doctors, run tests, but this illness was and still is very elusive. with that being said I had 5 jobs since its first flare up till last year to continue to support my family and to pay child support. as of last year. I'm having trouble moving on certain days, breathing and acid reflux and muscle atrophy. (disease progression) especially when this is going on, it worsens everything as this is flared up. I was working under the table to try and make ends meet as I was paying child support still. I should add that the child support with 50/50 custody was $1029 for three kids cause I was making six figures at the time of divorce in 2018. Last year however, I couldn't work anymore, and filed for disability.
In june of last year, I had asked Susan, to get the children school supplies, (which she never does) as I was still paying at the time $1029 in child support. She said she didnt have the money despite now making 70k and her new BF living with her and is working whom she cheated on me with. With me working under the table, I bought them clothes, haircuts, school supplies (ive done every year) but then, I noticed she went on vacation to puerto rico and got a giant leg tattoo. At the time, I had already known what I had, and I asked myself why the heck am I doing this? So i turned to an attorney to get it modified. Again, this is June 20th to be exact of last year. My lawyer, stated that this was only going to be a 90 day turn around for the temporary modification then we will go for the final.
Since then, I have gone for a DNA test. I had to know. I am dying. I wanted to know. And you may judge me for this. but i have filed for disablement for paternity, meaning I am removing myself from the birth certificate. However, in the state of Florida, a mother can deny this and so can the courts. before you judge me, I have many reasons none of which have to do with him other then his mental disability (Aspergers) This illness, as days go by takes more and more from me. As previously aforementioned, I am left with 250 a month. I cannot go get a drs appointment pay for groceries or start planning my funeral which I will start making payments on soon. He also eats three times the amount that we all collectively do (Not his fault) but I have paid enough both mentally and financially. He also has trouble communicating as my suspicions is, that he was born of incest (gross) which is why I was 'chosen' to be his father at the time. Before you ask how do you know? Lets just say she had an uncle 'leave' during that time.
anyways, in February, I had the temporary modification hearing for child support and needless to say it was a circus. My doctor was subpoenaed to be there by my attorneys request to better my argument, even though I felt we didn't need her, she advised me to have my doctor there. Well, he attorney attacked my doctor and me for an hour and 40 mins when the court case was only supposed to go for an hour. He said "you saw another dr Max so and so and they said it was all in your head" (again I had flare ups on a illness that hadnt revealed itself correctly since last year). So there argument was that I was doctor seeking to avoid child support. After I have paid for 13 years never missing a payment. Her lawyer also targeted people who are living with me. Now I'll admit that I said they were friends which is true but how else can I pay for my attorney? Cant work, cant sell drugs, cant rob a bank? So they want to take there income into consideration. BS. She also hired a private investigator to watch me exercise outside and stated that because I can exercise, I can work..... Ok. Where's the 23 hours of the rest of the day watching me in pain. or when do you have me on video of a flare up from this terminal illness? (that's what I wanted to say)
Although I was granted the temporary modification, of $209, I left the court thinking wow, this woman can cheat, commit paternity fraud, not give two craps about our children, live with her mom in a section 8 home, and here I am doing whatever I can and I've done nothing wrong but be lied to and this is how my government, my country treats me? No wonder men my age dont have children this is insane. The paternity issue wasn't even brought up they said that this isnt the place for this and that the disestablishment will be another trial for those wondering. My lawyer only spoke for 5 mins. Asking her about her income cause thats the only thing that has changed since 2018 since she didnt work at the time. Other than that, it was an attack on me and my disease arguing my ability to work.
after leaving that, I didnt eat for 96 hours. I have since been crying nonstop. Compilating suicide. I am already heart broken about my son not being mine. Sure does a terminal illness make me said, no question everyday. But a life wasted on another? Cause I decided to be a man and take up responsibility? thats soul crushing. And to say "well, there is a big chance the courts will deny your request' thats BS. If i go to prison because I was accused of a robbery for 13 years, and DNA evidence proves I wasnt there, I get out of jail and can sue. This is no different. If anything, DNA evidence needs to be more of a factor in family law than in almost every court of law if not as equally important. My bad for not investigating her infidelity not only in the beginning but also in the end. How about not being a POS. sorry rant over
gets better. Her mom and dad smoke in the section 8 house, kids reek of cigarette smoke and marijuana, all day. they dont take showers there, they were hand me down clothes, they live in the garage shared with there mother, that isn't air conditioned. and he makes only a few thousand less than I do a month. She stated in court that she pays her mom $500 in rent which is BS, she is only doing that now so that she makes herself look bad. I know she is doing pills, like oxy and what not. Id love to prove it.
after the temp hearing, in april, I had to go to court to contest my drivers license suspension as I hadn't paid child support since, august of last year. again, there is no way, I can pay my bills, feed my children, go to the doctor, pay my lawyer to end all of this BS and pay the current child support amount. and again, this final hearing is still not set yet. So they intercepted my tax return, even though the temporary modification was approved, the final is what gets it retro backed to the date of filing, so they took, a much needed 5500 tax return from me. I needed that cause one of the issues I failed to mention as well, hurricane Ian has destroyed my home and I'm still going through that process too. not to mention I am on payment plans with Mayo clinic and other various medical facilities. (no one cares) but the interest that accrues, makes it impossible to catch up. also, Florida department of rev is overstepping I feel, and asking for medical info to be sent to them as well as updated doctors letters to be sent saying that I am still on disability.
a few weeks ago, I got an email from my lawyer having a withdrawal notice from her lawyer. in the withdrawal, he stated that he cannot represent her, due to something she may have withheld or lied about (more or less wasn't worded like that but you can tell). In feb court appearance they never produced the PI report, or videos, they had medical info they shouldn't have had, and they had very outlandish comments about my lifestyle. So my lawyer filed immediately a motion to compel. meaning, we want to see everything you have on my client. this was filed almost immediately after court appearance on feb 20th. Susan has failed to provide any updated info requested by my attorney so on june 18th, we have that upcoming hearing.
in the mean time, I have sent my lawyer, a very heavily requested topics, such as "where did they get my medical records, if those were lies, what are the consequences if any"? What did exercising have to do with any of this despite various drs saying he has to or he will get worse.
I know wat you must be thinking, what about your oldest, how can you do that to him. Please listen. This woman has taken everything from me. And i mean everything but the roof over my head. I am seeing a therapist to help with the suicidal thoughts. it isnt enough. the reality of it is, I chose to be loyal and it bit me in the butt. This disease will rob me of everything, my teeth will fall out ( I had 5 cavities last time I went to the dentist) I haven't had a cavity since I was 30 and even then I was suspicious. And I am brushing 5 time s a day to save them. My skin is tightening, and my arms and muscles are wasting. I will literally be left with nothing. My organs will also start to harden, and I will have to start getting around the clock care.
I forgot to mention they (child support) recently, sent a letter to SSI (social security) saying that they would garnish my SSI before I even got it, totaling $1029. the incorrect amount. I sent this to my lawyer and she is looking into it. But it shows that child support will overstep and breaks every law or freedom you may think you have. I DO take care of my children. if they need a haircut i do it, school supplies clothes, anything I do it. And I do it, cause she wont. What I want to leave you with, is that woman can be dead beats too. Child support was designed to have woman off of government subsidized programs like section 8 food stamps and what not. Also to make the man pay for their children man or woman I should say, I know this. I am not running from my obligation. I just want Susan, to have to pay for what's she's done to me and the kids.
I would like to hear your thoughts on this, please comment and share, all names are fake, but everything else is unfortunately real. I know it was wordy, but I wanted to provide as much backstory as possible. And please. Respect my descions. When you are end of life, I hope someone would be kind enough to respect yours. You may not agree and that's ok, but I am asking you to respect them. Thank you for reading.

Where do I begin. For the purpose of this post, I will use fictious names and locations as it is ongoing, and out of respect (even though she doesn't deserve any)
My name is Daniel. I am 35 years old, and i am dying. I have a disease called systemic sclerosis. I am currently on a supplemental disability plan, until I get approved for SSI (social Security). Until then, my income is about 4K a month. I own a home but after child support and bills, NOT INCLUDING gas, food, haircuts, medical appointments, and or emergencies like my fridge just broke. (which i never go out) I am left with $260 that has to last me a month. I also have three children who I have to take care of half the time per the 50/50 agreement.
Recently, I found out my oldest, (who is 13) is not biologically mine. I decided to look into it as I had concerns for a while since my divorce as her cheating was very rampant. I also had caught her in 2017 with a man in my house, which is what prompted the divorce. But FL being a no fault state, doesn't matter. I also had to pay child support since the beginning and WHILE LEGALLY Married since 2010 because she had applied for financial support like food stamps and government assistance then. I know what your thinking. Why didnt you stop it then? I tried. You cant take yourself off child support. I also never grew up with a father and wanted that two-parent household. I don't run from responsibilities, like he did. Its how I was raised. Anyways, I married her, tried to do the right thing, she lied numerous times. she never worked, and I worked 90 plus hours a week. To look into her cheating, was impossible at the time as I was never home. and to busy providing for my family.
fast forward to now. My disease started to become worse and over three years; it didn't reveal itself until last year fully to actually pinpoint what this was. for instance, I had in 2019 pain behind my eyes and horrible headaches to the point that I thought I had MS. following year, I had trouble swallowing for 3 months. next year itching in the skin for three months. But prior, I had visited various doctors to see what was going on, each time a flare up then would last 3 to four months, which again, when you don't understand what's going on, you need to take time off to go see doctors, run tests, but this illness was and still is very elusive. with that being said I had 5 jobs since its first flare up till last year to continue to support my family and to pay child support. as of last year. I'm having trouble moving on certain days, breathing and acid reflux and muscle atrophy. (disease progression) especially when this is going on, it worsens everything as this is flared up. I was working under the table to try and make ends meet as I was paying child support still. I should add that the child support with 50/50 custody was $1029 for three kids cause I was making six figures at the time of divorce in 2018. Last year however, I couldn't work anymore, and filed for disability.
In june of last year, I had asked Susan, to get the children school supplies, (which she never does) as I was still paying at the time $1029 in child support. She said she didnt have the money despite now making 70k and her new BF living with her and is working whom she cheated on me with. With me working under the table, I bought them clothes, haircuts, school supplies (ive done every year) but then, I noticed she went on vacation to puerto rico and got a giant leg tattoo. At the time, I had already known what I had, and I asked myself why the heck am I doing this? So i turned to an attorney to get it modified. Again, this is June 20th to be exact of last year. My lawyer, stated that this was only going to be a 90 day turn around for the temporary modification then we will go for the final.
Since then, I have gone for a DNA test. I had to know. I am dying. I wanted to know. And you may judge me for this. but i have filed for disablement for paternity, meaning I am removing myself from the birth certificate. However, in the state of Florida, a mother can deny this and so can the courts. before you judge me, I have many reasons none of which have to do with him other then his mental disability (Aspergers) This illness, as days go by takes more and more from me. As previously aforementioned, I am left with 250 a month. I cannot go get a drs appointment pay for groceries or start planning my funeral which I will start making payments on soon. He also eats three times the amount that we all collectively do (Not his fault) but I have paid enough both mentally and financially. He also has trouble communicating as my suspicions is, that he was born of incest (gross) which is why I was 'chosen' to be his father at the time. Before you ask how do you know? Lets just say she had an uncle 'leave' during that time.
anyways, in February, I had the temporary modification hearing for child support and needless to say it was a circus. My doctor was subpoenaed to be there by my attorneys request to better my argument, even though I felt we didn't need her, she advised me to have my doctor there. Well, he attorney attacked my doctor and me for an hour and 40 mins when the court case was only supposed to go for an hour. He said "you saw another dr Max so and so and they said it was all in your head" (again I had flare ups on a illness that hadnt revealed itself correctly since last year). So there argument was that I was doctor seeking to avoid child support. After I have paid for 13 years never missing a payment. Her lawyer also targeted people who are living with me. Now I'll admit that I said they were friends which is true but how else can I pay for my attorney? Cant work, cant sell drugs, cant rob a bank? So they want to take there income into consideration. BS. She also hired a private investigator to watch me exercise outside and stated that because I can exercise, I can work..... Ok. Where's the 23 hours of the rest of the day watching me in pain. or when do you have me on video of a flare up from this terminal illness? (that's what I wanted to say)
Although I was granted the temporary modification, of $209, I left the court thinking wow, this woman can cheat, commit paternity fraud, not give two craps about our children, live with her mom in a section 8 home, and here I am doing whatever I can and I've done nothing wrong but be lied to and this is how my government, my country treats me? No wonder men my age dont have children this is insane. The paternity issue wasn't even brought up they said that this isnt the place for this and that the disestablishment will be another trial for those wondering. My lawyer only spoke for 5 mins. Asking her about her income cause thats the only thing that has changed since 2018 since she didnt work at the time. Other than that, it was an attack on me and my disease arguing my ability to work.
after leaving that, I didnt eat for 96 hours. I have since been crying nonstop. Compilating suicide. I am already heart broken about my son not being mine. Sure does a terminal illness make me said, no question everyday. But a life wasted on another? Cause I decided to be a man and take up responsibility? thats soul crushing. And to say "well, there is a big chance the courts will deny your request' thats BS. If i go to prison because I was accused of a robbery for 13 years, and DNA evidence proves I wasnt there, I get out of jail and can sue. This is no different. If anything, DNA evidence needs to be more of a factor in family law than in almost every court of law if not as equally important. My bad for not investigating her infidelity not only in the beginning but also in the end. How about not being a POS. sorry rant over
gets better. Her mom and dad smoke in the section 8 house, kids reek of cigarette smoke and marijuana, all day. they dont take showers there, they were hand me down clothes, they live in the garage shared with there mother, that isn't air conditioned. and he makes only a few thousand less than I do a month. She stated in court that she pays her mom $500 in rent which is BS, she is only doing that now so that she makes herself look bad. I know she is doing pills, like oxy and what not. Id love to prove it.
after the temp hearing, in april, I had to go to court to contest my drivers license suspension as I hadn't paid child support since, august of last year. again, there is no way, I can pay my bills, feed my children, go to the doctor, pay my lawyer to end all of this BS and pay the current child support amount. and again, this final hearing is still not set yet. So they intercepted my tax return, even though the temporary modification was approved, the final is what gets it retro backed to the date of filing, so they took, a much needed 5500 tax return from me. I needed that cause one of the issues I failed to mention as well, hurricane Ian has destroyed my home and I'm still going through that process too. not to mention I am on payment plans with Mayo clinic and other various medical facilities. (no one cares) but the interest that accrues, makes it impossible to catch up. also, Florida department of rev is overstepping I feel, and asking for medical info to be sent to them as well as updated doctors letters to be sent saying that I am still on disability.
a few weeks ago, I got an email from my lawyer having a withdrawal notice from her lawyer. in the withdrawal, he stated that he cannot represent her, due to something she may have withheld or lied about (more or less wasn't worded like that but you can tell). In feb court appearance they never produced the PI report, or videos, they had medical info they shouldn't have had, and they had very outlandish comments about my lifestyle. So my lawyer filed immediately a motion to compel. meaning, we want to see everything you have on my client. this was filed almost immediately after court appearance on feb 20th. Susan has failed to provide any updated info requested by my attorney so on june 18th, we have that upcoming hearing.
in the mean time, I have sent my lawyer, a very heavily requested topics, such as "where did they get my medical records, if those were lies, what are the consequences if any"? What did exercising have to do with any of this despite various drs saying he has to or he will get worse.
I know wat you must be thinking, what about your oldest, how can you do that to him. Please listen. This woman has taken everything from me. And i mean everything but the roof over my head. I am seeing a therapist to help with the suicidal thoughts. it isnt enough. the reality of it is, I chose to be loyal and it bit me in the butt. This disease will rob me of everything, my teeth will fall out ( I had 5 cavities last time I went to the dentist) I haven't had a cavity since I was 30 and even then I was suspicious. And I am brushing 5 time s a day to save them. My skin is tightening, and my arms and muscles are wasting. I will literally be left with nothing. My organs will also start to harden, and I will have to start getting around the clock care.
I forgot to mention they (child support) recently, sent a letter to SSI (social security) saying that they would garnish my SSI before I even got it, totaling $1029. the incorrect amount. I sent this to my lawyer and she is looking into it. But it shows that child support will overstep and breaks every law or freedom you may think you have. I DO take care of my children. if they need a haircut i do it, school supplies clothes, anything I do it. And I do it, cause she wont. What I want to leave you with, is that woman can be dead beats too. Child support was designed to have woman off of government subsidized programs like section 8 food stamps and what not. Also to make the man pay for their children man or woman I should say, I know this. I am not running from my obligation. I just want Susan, to have to pay for what's she's done to me and the kids.
I would like to hear your thoughts on this, please comment and share, all names are fake, but everything else is unfortunately real. I know it was wordy, but I wanted to provide as much backstory as possible. And please. Respect my descions. When you are end of life, I hope someone would be kind enough to respect yours. You may not agree and that's ok, but I am asking you to respect them. Thank you for reading.

Honestly most of my ocs have been me taking ny favorite parts of characters i like from things like fashion choices and personality and then tossing them into a blender. The author’s favorite oc Lethias is featured here, stole some fashon choices from genshin and honkai characters notably childe and aventurine (dead fish eyes and asymmetrical clothing designs rule). Haircut from chuuya nakahara (bungo stray dogs) and personality-wise he’s similar to karma akabane (assassination classroom) I do be proud of this one, since i have ambitions to make a whole ass IP with it. What about you?

Where do I begin. For the purpose of this post, I will use fictious names and locations as it is ongoing, and out of respect (even though she doesn't deserve any)
My name is Daniel. I am 35 years old, and i am dying. I have a disease called systemic sclerosis. I am currently on a supplemental disability plan, until I get approved for SSI (social Security). Until then, my income is about 4K a month. I own a home but after child support and bills, NOT INCLUDING gas, food, haircuts, medical appointments, and or emergencies like my fridge just broke. (which i never go out) I am left with $260 that has to last me a month. I also have three children who I have to take care of half the time per the 50/50 agreement.
Recently, I found out my oldest, (who is 13) is not biologically mine. I decided to look into it as I had concerns for a while since my divorce as her cheating was very rampant. I also had caught her in 2017 with a man in my house, which is what prompted the divorce. But FL being a no fault state, doesn't matter. I also had to pay child support since the beginning and WHILE LEGALLY Married since 2010 because she had applied for financial support like food stamps and government assistance then. I know what your thinking. Why didnt you stop it then? I tried. You cant take yourself off child support. I also never grew up with a father and wanted that two-parent household. I don't run from responsibilities, like he did. Its how I was raised. Anyways, I married her, tried to do the right thing, she lied numerous times. she never worked, and I worked 90 plus hours a week. To look into her cheating, was impossible at the time as I was never home. and to busy providing for my family.
fast forward to now. My disease started to become worse and over three years; it didn't reveal itself until last year fully to actually pinpoint what this was. for instance, I had in 2019 pain behind my eyes and horrible headaches to the point that I thought I had MS. following year, I had trouble swallowing for 3 months. next year itching in the skin for three months. But prior, I had visited various doctors to see what was going on, each time a flare up then would last 3 to four months, which again, when you don't understand what's going on, you need to take time off to go see doctors, run tests, but this illness was and still is very elusive. with that being said I had 5 jobs since its first flare up till last year to continue to support my family and to pay child support. as of last year. I'm having trouble moving on certain days, breathing and acid reflux and muscle atrophy. (disease progression) especially when this is going on, it worsens everything as this is flared up. I was working under the table to try and make ends meet as I was paying child support still. I should add that the child support with 50/50 custody was $1029 for three kids cause I was making six figures at the time of divorce in 2018. Last year however, I couldn't work anymore, and filed for disability.
In june of last year, I had asked Susan, to get the children school supplies, (which she never does) as I was still paying at the time $1029 in child support. She said she didnt have the money despite now making 70k and her new BF living with her and is working whom she cheated on me with. With me working under the table, I bought them clothes, haircuts, school supplies (ive done every year) but then, I noticed she went on vacation to puerto rico and got a giant leg tattoo. At the time, I had already known what I had, and I asked myself why the heck am I doing this? So i turned to an attorney to get it modified. Again, this is June 20th to be exact of last year. My lawyer, stated that this was only going to be a 90 day turn around for the temporary modification then we will go for the final.
Since then, I have gone for a DNA test. I had to know. I am dying. I wanted to know. And you may judge me for this. but i have filed for disablement for paternity, meaning I am removing myself from the birth certificate. However, in the state of Florida, a mother can deny this and so can the courts. before you judge me, I have many reasons none of which have to do with him other then his mental disability (Aspergers) This illness, as days go by takes more and more from me. As previously aforementioned, I am left with 250 a month. I cannot go get a drs appointment pay for groceries or start planning my funeral which I will start making payments on soon. He also eats three times the amount that we all collectively do (Not his fault) but I have paid enough both mentally and financially. He also has trouble communicating as my suspicions is, that he was born of incest (gross) which is why I was 'chosen' to be his father at the time. Before you ask how do you know? Lets just say she had an uncle 'leave' during that time.
anyways, in February, I had the temporary modification hearing for child support and needless to say it was a circus. My doctor was subpoenaed to be there by my attorneys request to better my argument, even though I felt we didn't need her, she advised me to have my doctor there. Well, he attorney attacked my doctor and me for an hour and 40 mins when the court case was only supposed to go for an hour. He said "you saw another dr Max so and so and they said it was all in your head" (again I had flare ups on a illness that hadnt revealed itself correctly since last year). So there argument was that I was doctor seeking to avoid child support. After I have paid for 13 years never missing a payment. Her lawyer also targeted people who are living with me. Now I'll admit that I said they were friends which is true but how else can I pay for my attorney? Cant work, cant sell drugs, cant rob a bank? So they want to take there income into consideration. BS. She also hired a private investigator to watch me exercise outside and stated that because I can exercise, I can work..... Ok. Where's the 23 hours of the rest of the day watching me in pain. or when do you have me on video of a flare up from this terminal illness? (that's what I wanted to say)
Although I was granted the temporary modification, of $209, I left the court thinking wow, this woman can cheat, commit paternity fraud, not give two craps about our children, live with her mom in a section 8 home, and here I am doing whatever I can and I've done nothing wrong but be lied to and this is how my government, my country treats me? No wonder men my age dont have children this is insane. The paternity issue wasn't even brought up they said that this isnt the place for this and that the disestablishment will be another trial for those wondering. My lawyer only spoke for 5 mins. Asking her about her income cause thats the only thing that has changed since 2018 since she didnt work at the time. Other than that, it was an attack on me and my disease arguing my ability to work.
after leaving that, I didnt eat for 96 hours. I have since been crying nonstop. Compilating suicide. I am already heart broken about my son not being mine. Sure does a terminal illness make me said, no question everyday. But a life wasted on another? Cause I decided to be a man and take up responsibility? thats soul crushing. And to say "well, there is a big chance the courts will deny your request' thats BS. If i go to prison because I was accused of a robbery for 13 years, and DNA evidence proves I wasnt there, I get out of jail and can sue. This is no different. If anything, DNA evidence needs to be more of a factor in family law than in almost every court of law if not as equally important. My bad for not investigating her infidelity not only in the beginning but also in the end. How about not being a POS. sorry rant over
gets better. Her mom and dad smoke in the section 8 house, kids reek of cigarette smoke and marijuana, all day. they dont take showers there, they were hand me down clothes, they live in the garage shared with there mother, that isn't air conditioned. and he makes only a few thousand less than I do a month. She stated in court that she pays her mom $500 in rent which is BS, she is only doing that now so that she makes herself look bad. I know she is doing pills, like oxy and what not. Id love to prove it.
after the temp hearing, in april, I had to go to court to contest my drivers license suspension as I hadn't paid child support since, august of last year. again, there is no way, I can pay my bills, feed my children, go to the doctor, pay my lawyer to end all of this BS and pay the current child support amount. and again, this final hearing is still not set yet. So they intercepted my tax return, even though the temporary modification was approved, the final is what gets it retro backed to the date of filing, so they took, a much needed 5500 tax return from me. I needed that cause one of the issues I failed to mention as well, hurricane Ian has destroyed my home and I'm still going through that process too. not to mention I am on payment plans with Mayo clinic and other various medical facilities. (no one cares) but the interest that accrues, makes it impossible to catch up. also, Florida department of rev is overstepping I feel, and asking for medical info to be sent to them as well as updated doctors letters to be sent saying that I am still on disability.
a few weeks ago, I got an email from my lawyer having a withdrawal notice from her lawyer. in the withdrawal, he stated that he cannot represent her, due to something she may have withheld or lied about (more or less wasn't worded like that but you can tell). In feb court appearance they never produced the PI report, or videos, they had medical info they shouldn't have had, and they had very outlandish comments about my lifestyle. So my lawyer filed immediately a motion to compel. meaning, we want to see everything you have on my client. this was filed almost immediately after court appearance on feb 20th. Susan has failed to provide any updated info requested by my attorney so on june 18th, we have that upcoming hearing.
in the mean time, I have sent my lawyer, a very heavily requested topics, such as "where did they get my medical records, if those were lies, what are the consequences if any"? What did exercising have to do with any of this despite various drs saying he has to or he will get worse.
I know wat you must be thinking, what about your oldest, how can you do that to him. Please listen. This woman has taken everything from me. And i mean everything but the roof over my head. I am seeing a therapist to help with the suicidal thoughts. it isnt enough. the reality of it is, I chose to be loyal and it bit me in the butt. This disease will rob me of everything, my teeth will fall out ( I had 5 cavities last time I went to the dentist) I haven't had a cavity since I was 30 and even then I was suspicious. And I am brushing 5 time s a day to save them. My skin is tightening, and my arms and muscles are wasting. I will literally be left with nothing. My organs will also start to harden, and I will have to start getting around the clock care.
I forgot to mention they (child support) recently, sent a letter to SSI (social security) saying that they would garnish my SSI before I even got it, totaling $1029. the incorrect amount. I sent this to my lawyer and she is looking into it. But it shows that child support will overstep and breaks every law or freedom you may think you have. I DO take care of my children. if they need a haircut i do it, school supplies clothes, anything I do it. And I do it, cause she wont. What I want to leave you with, is that woman can be dead beats too. Child support was designed to have woman off of government subsidized programs like section 8 food stamps and what not. Also to make the man pay for their children man or woman I should say, I know this. I am not running from my obligation. I just want Susan, to have to pay for what's she's done to me and the kids.
I would like to hear your thoughts on this, please comment and share, all names are fake, but everything else is unfortunately real. I know it was wordy, but I wanted to provide as much backstory as possible. And please. Respect my descions. When you are end of life, I hope someone would be kind enough to respect yours. You may not agree and that's ok, but I am asking you to respect them. Thank you for reading.

I vaguely remember the channel was called The Original Mac or something and it would have been around 2010 ? It featured a young boy with a bowl kinda haircut that had a big smile and braces. I remember one video specifically was him going to his dentist to get the braces removed. It was a vlog and sketch style channel and I don’t know if i’m tripping but i can’t fine any info anyone on this channel. now it’s driving me crazy. I want to say he acted a bit excentrique like FRED but not as wild ?!? i am so confused. I hope my youtube people can help me